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writes:Hi, im a 19 year old gal and have been dating my bf for 2years 11months i've never had sex before but we fool around a lot. Whn we met i told him i dont want to have sex until we married he agreed and took the sex idea out of his head. SO NOW im the 1 who wants to have sex. Problem is he shares a room with his brother and his house is always full and i have a room but he cant come over because my dad would kill me and im afraid of what my neighbours will say plus telling my parents. Oh they also see me as a good child and tell my parents how well they raised me. What can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow @mr natural m speechless. I think m gna have 2 sit down 4 this. And to all tht respondd i thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2011): I'm sorry but I'll have to be the killjoy here.
The response which I will give you is based on my own values. You may not share it with me entirely but just toGIVE you a different perspective on things. If I were your Boyfriend, I'd draw the line as to how far our relationship goes & our relationship stops short of sex. Reason being that sex is a previlige which a husband enjoys offered by the wife. That is why honey I will not have sex with you. I am just a boyfriend. Uless I swear an oath to honor, cherish, love & protect you for the rest of my life, everything I say as a boyfriend amounts to nothing. A boyfriend has options to love other women. A husband has sacrificed all options just to love you. From what you said, it is clear that he wants to become your husband because he values your virginity. But you want to have sex now. My answer as your boyfriend will be:
If you are in this relationship with me for sexual purposes than go find someone who will satify them for you anytime you want. I love you too much to take away your virtue, something which only your husband deserves. IF a husband is who you see me in the future, than lets save this special moment and celebrate it as husband & wife. Till then lets now invest in trust, repect, honesty, caring, & understanding so that our desires will not get the better of us.
HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (9 September 2011):
 Do it in a car parked in a remote area of where no one will see you or whenever your parents aren't home.
If you don't have a place to have sex then it looks like you're not going to be able to have it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOoops! We cant afford tht we both tertiary students. Besides my dad is verrrrrrry strict so i dnt go out much especially at nyt n i dnt do sleep ovas. But thanx 4 reading and responding guys.
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reader, sexi suga  +, writes (8 September 2011):
right ive also been in a very similar position myself... what i did was... well i always wanted to make my first time special and therefore went to the extent of going away for the weekend to a spa retreat... told my parents i went with friends to a spa weekend and went with my partnet instead and i made it very special... we had candles and champagne and the full works... was extremely sentimental and i loved every minuite of it... obv thats extreme but i suppose you could book a night like that with him...e.g. book a holiday inn or something, tell ur parents you are staying at a friends... you go in the day time to check in, decorate the room with candles/ petals etc and suprise you boyfriend by taking him to dinner and than to the decorated hotel... its always a very nice suprise for them.. u see their faces light up in shock its a brill feeling lol.. try it and let me know how it goes :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2011): is it possible to get a cheap hotel?, or if any friends would lend you there place for a while,
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