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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I look at my girlfriend and I think to myself how much I love her. I feel lost without her and I look towards going out with her. But I feel sometimes "unloved". I feel somewhat under appreciated and I've told her this many times before and she said she was sorry. And now as of late Ive been catching myself checking out other girls in sexual ways. I've been even thinking about cheating or breaking up with her because my relationship feels unbalanced. I mean can't a girlfriend tell her boyfriend she loves him every once in a while. Not mine she tells me (mostly) after I tell her. She seems very unexcited with me just goes with the motion and to be honest quite boring. I'm in high school and I would imagine a girl to be quite more energetic but my girlfriend doesn't even seem happy to see me. I've confronted her about this and she assures me she loves me and she would change and she's been the same for 14 months now. Help plz thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (12 March 2011):
 Either your girlfriend is just more reserved then you are and has a hard time showing her feelings or she has become to comfortable with you and the relationship.
It is a natural fact that once the ski rockets and fireworks start to fade, people tend to get a little lazy and stop trying so hard to keep the other person happy and interested. Most people call this marriage. lol
But you are not married and are only 16-17 so you shouldn't be feeling so bored with your relationship already. Either this girl is not trying very hard to keep you or she is not a good match for you anymore. Since you have already told her what you want and need from her. And she hasn't changed. She probably isn't going to....
14 mths is a long time at your age for a relationship to last, so maybe it has just run its course.
The only thing you can do is tell her you that you're not happy anymore and you think its time for you guys to take a break from each other. She will probably cry and try harder for awhile to please you before she goes right back to her same old ways.
You can either enjoy it while it lasts, or tell her sorry, it's to little to late, and go your separate ways. It is up to you.
Good luck!
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