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writes:i am married with one child, i work and live away from home. married since year 2000. before this marriage i was in a relationship a lovely sweet young lady but are relationship was banned due to religious differences, now she is also married with one boy and pregnant and lives away from home... so, we are both married and lives away from home [different continents]. now we are chating online approx daily, with some "hints" that she still in love with me... "i miss you too much" "you make me feel happy" "glad to be in touch with you again"... i am lost, i still have feelings for her and maybe i am misunderstanding her messages... but i feel relaxed when chating with her too.i don't see any future for any kind of relationship with her...what can i do?! Reply to this Question
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reader, caring-chrissy  +, writes (20 May 2008):
It is always difficult when you love someone and it doesn't work out. although you may feel as though you are once again in love with her, ask yourself 2 questions; "how is you're marriage?", "why did you break up in the first place?". If you feel you're marriage hasn't got the same fire that it did when you first got married, then maybe you are looking for a new light. a flame to make you feel the way you did before. you don't want to leave your family, there is a reason you didn't stay with this other woman. and there is a reason you married you're wife. you love you're wife, and i think the best thing for you to do is to stop talking to this other woman. it is one thing to stay friends. but if you feel that friendship could damage you're life, then it isn't worth it. just ask yourself, how would your wife feel if she found out?
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Be her friend. And let her be yours. That's the only relationship that's going to work, isn't it?
Friendship is good. Don't try to make it something it isn't and something it can never be. You would only end up hurting so many people, including yourself eventually. Just be her friend.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 What you can do is knock off this nonsense and pay attention to your family. Your online romance is a waste of time and energy.
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