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writes: HiI have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. Our relationship has been great for the most part. However, over the last year I have been making a big deal over all these small things. I know that these things aren't really worth getting upset over, but I can't help it. I keep justifying it to myself by saying that if I didn't tell him that it annoys me, then he won't know, and he'll keep on doing it. Should I just bite my tongue, or keep telling him that these small things annoy me? Why am I getting so upset over these little things that I never used to get to get upset over? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): YOU CAN HELP IT.
So don't give excuses; it just makes you out to be some lamer which I imagine you don't want to be.
You may have a personality disorder. You may have some issues that stem from childhood where you sabotage yourself. You may be unhappy and no one will ever bring you happiness because you just may not want it or feel you deserve it.
Are you willing to pick up a book?
Pick up Beverly Engels "The Emotionally Abusive Relationship"...in it are some questionnaires, some signs of being abusive, and other beneficial material that will have you do some soul searching.
Also, seek some individual counselling to help sort out youself and get to the real reason or cause of why you feel compelled to be how you are behaving.
Best Wishes.
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