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writes: While I was growing up around the age of 10-16 I was involved romanticly with my cousin. This was kept secret for the entire time, untill eventually it came out we were sleeping together (I was 16 she was 13). My parents went on and on about how its wrong blah blah... Well I'm 25 now, shes 21 (before you say how were we 3 years then and 4 now, my birth day is aug 3 and hers is dec 24). Effectively the relationship ended very quick after our parents got involved, I was (and still am) very attached to her and went through very bad depression at times sucidal. She moved on and married a guy and had 3 kids with him. However we've alway been very close and confided in eachother, recently shes told me she's met a guy names Sean and he makes her feel alive and *insert how I feel about her here* and is going to divorce her husband after christmas (he doesnt know about our previous relationship or the impending divorce/ other guy). I'm at a loss I care deeply, I love her to the point I'd take care of her children and her for as long as I breathe, but I'm not sure her feelings toward me or the prospect of our particular relationship as we've never talked about it in depth as the subject gets changed everytime... I want her to be happy but it seems that it won't be with me, and the thought of that is constantly devistating me. There's enough drama here I could write a friggin novel, but I think I gotten the general situation down. My problem is that most people say you'll move on, find someone else, ect... And I've tried but they never last and I always end up longing for her again. Is it possible to fall in love with someone and never stop, am I crazy or is it the real deal honest to god love. Whaterver I could write all day and never get anywhere with this...
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reader, ABC1234 +, writes (21 November 2006):
wOW, I HOPE one day your meet a women who you will feel the same way as you felt with your cousin. I wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2006):
So if you were 10 then she was a 7 yo?
And now she has 3 kids, a pending divorce and a extramarital lover at 21?
There really has be someone else in this world for you. I get the feeling is not doing anyone any good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2006): Here's a link to help you join the French Foreign Legion: http://www.foreignlegionlife.com/They will help you get beyond this "cousin" problem.
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