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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys,I`ve been feeling a bit lost and could use some advice. I've never been in a serious relationship for, which is rare at my age. Even though I'm not ready to settle down now (I love to travel and I really want badly to see the world), I would really like to share my life one day. I often feel discouraged, though, because I have had really rotten luck with a series of people. Every time I have feelings for someone, they're never returned. I understand that most people go through this at some point, but it's happened to me a series of times, every time I have had feeligs for someone... they're either gay (nothing wrong with being gay... just that it's painful to have unrequited feelings), interested in someone else, have a girlfriend, etc. I'm not sure if I have feelings for anyone now, but I look around at all the people who have found someone, and I feel like something is profoundly wrong with me, and I wonder why I can't seem to find someone. I can accept that not every person will return my feelings, but there are roughly three billion of them, and, well... you can see my age! I don't want to settle for someone that doesn't mean anything to me. I guess my question is... how do I get peace about this? Sometimes I feel like I'm not meant to have someone. I'm not sure why things never seem to work out for me, or how to have peace in my heart.Thanks if you can help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2011): Your right - everyone feels like this at some point. It's sad that you have had rotten luck with a series of people but it happens.Without knowing the details - maybe you're aiming too low, or too high even? I think when you're looking for something - its hard to find. The traveling thing is a great idea - get out and meet like minded people doing things you do.Take each day as it come and things usually have a way of working themselves out.
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