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writes: i recently asked questions about dreams, my 2nd Q wasnt printed but i never wrote why i wanted to know about the reasons behind it.im with my bf almost a year and we have never told each other we love each other, i love him and am almost sure he loves me. i want him to say it so ill know but dont want to say it first as i ddontwant him to say it as an answer or feel forced into saying it, and dont want to ask as it wont be as special.iv had dreams about bein chased and was told that im running away from something-maybe talking about this?he's been dreaming that im falling off a cliff, ill wake up bacause he's rabbed me and told me not to move as he thinks im on the edge, i want to know if this could show anything about his feelings as im in it too?he's 29 and im 24,he said he's not wasting time with me and wants marriage and kids(he didnt say with me,its in other things he says and does that i know this)but iv only met some of his family and friends, he's met all mine, so i can feel confused about where i stand.... ...so i need to hear that i loved without asking for it so my Q is.........is it possible that he really loves me and maybe is too shy to say it or doesnt think its important (or that im this neurotic!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2006): It means you have been having dreams of being chased and he has had dream of you falling of a cliff.
It is quite possible that the dreams were shaped by your fears and insecurities.
I have had a dream of being in a mall where there are Orcas in the middle of the mall in a tank. I have had dreams of one of my children falling into the tank and I am diving in after them and drowning.
It's an uncomfortable dream and while in the dream...it is very real.
I have talked with a friend of mine who is a Criminologist and he just laughed and said that all it was, was ibedded self doubt over my own parenting. He asked me if I doubted my parenting skills... I thought about it and said no, not really...now and then I do. He said it was normal and to remember no one is perfect.
Now my point?
It could be that he does in fact love you as actions are very important.
Just ask him, can you see yourself being married to me? Can you see me as the mother of your children?
Why are you waiting for him to say I love you? What if he has concluded the same thing?
Be honest with yourself; tell him how you feel.
Talk.
Don't read too much into things. If you have any concerns then turn to him; that is what he is to be for you someone to turn to. He is your friend and lover. Trust in him. Take a chance. Stop running from happiness and start running to it.
Good luck.
*hugs*
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