A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,Me and this guy have been dating for about four months going on five. I meet him over a dateline, he sounded like a sweet guy, so after some time he asked me to be his girlfriend. For some unknown reason without even thinking i said yes. The big problem is, he lives in Dallas, Texas,and i live in Tulsa, Oklahoma. I really like this guy a whole lot, so much that i have feelings for him but its not love. I haven't seen him, don't have any way of seeing him, neither does he have any way of seeing me, even if we did see each other i know that i we would have to go our separate ways again. I don't know anything about him and he doesn't know anything about me, i wanna know everything about him but he seems to just push me away when i try, I'm thinking i should break it off and move on, but i feel like that would be a hard thing to do. What should i do?
View related questions:
move on Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2007): Online dating can be really good and successful if the distance isnt a issue,thats how i met my partner but theres only 15 miles between us.In reality you have the distance issue with this man and for him to ask for you to be his girlfriend is a bit much when you havent even met face to face and like you say if you did you would have to go your seperate ways and not only that you are basically putting yourself on hold for him.I would raise the distance issue with him and tell him you think that is a problem for you to be his girlfriend and say you are more than happy to be his cyber buddy and chat with him.And i would start to live your life a bit and find somebody nearer to home otherwise you are just wasting your life away for something that might not even happen.And for all you know he could be anybody and just playing with you.
A
male
reader, Kody  +, writes (7 March 2007):
To Miss Oklahoma
I to use to have someone I liked on the computer
and I am in Ohio She was in Florida.We sent pictures and talked on the web cam but becarefull out there somepeople say there people there not.But if you love him you should get him to talk and if he dont want to then I hate to say this he might be playin ya.Sorry girl but I wish you the best of luck.
...............................
A
female
reader, Ask Heather +, writes (7 March 2007):
 I agree with CD, We`d both like to see you getting "out & about" in the real world; and having fun! There`s no reason you should break off the connection you have with this guy, you obviously enjoy each other`s company on line, and this could be a real good frienship that will last. As you get to meet more people in your area, maybe someone special, it would be great to have a friend to share your news with. Please don`t break off communicating with him right now, he will be hurt, as you would be if it were the other way around. He`s probably already realised, like you, the huge difficulties in distance; but is fond enough of you to want to keep in contact. Would be a shame for either of you to lose that. Kind Regards, Heather.
...............................
A
female
reader, cd206  +, writes (7 March 2007):
 Cyber relationships can be near perfect because you don't see each other all the time and therefore don't get bogged down and argue about the little things that crop up day to day. However this is also the main negative of online relationships. If you don't get to experience the day to day together you can never be truly close. I feel that this relationship is better off as a friendship and that you deserve to live your life in real time rather than via a computer monitor.
CD
...............................
|
