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writes: I'm 18 and have been dating this 25 year old for 3 years. He has a 15 year old younger brother. And we kissed. Then we had sex. While the older brother was away we had sex for a week. Now I want to go out with the younger one but not hurt the oldder brother.. How? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2007): Brotherly Love
A year ago I bumped into someone I used to fancy about 20 years ago who is now divorced with children. We had an instant connection – as if it was meant to be. Although I found him quite difficult to talk too and a bit shy in his presence – I’ve always felt like this about him. The same night I met his younger brother who I instantly found really easy to talk too and I fancied him on the night too. Although the guy I’d fancied 20 years ago was dating someone else we starting meeting up and texting each other and he told me that he’s always fancied me and when he got divorced he’d tried to find me. He told me that his girlfriend of 3 years was great but there was a big but in the relationship and the relationship wasn’t right. For the past year he has tried to finish with his girlfriend on several occasions but gives in when she gets upset and then can’t go through with it because he feels lonely and the hurt feelings remind him too much of his split from his wife. I think about him all the time and he does me and I unconditionally love him i.e. I want him to be happy even if it’s not with me? We have hugged and cuddled but nothing has happened sexually in fact when we are together we both freeze it’s so strange – we joke that we must be related. It just should have happened by now. We’ve put it down to him feeling guilty about his girlfriend. It’s so frustrating. I have become quite friendly with a lot of his friends who I used to know years ago too and also his younger brother. His girlfriend has been rowing with him to move in as she feels her life is on hold whilst she waits for him to sort his head out. I know that this guy is not an ideal companion for me but he has had a hold over me like a spell for the last year – I keep saying can I have my mind back please? Any how he has given into her pestering and they are moving in together. When he told me I was instantly gutted, then I had a flash of I’m free, I’ve got my mind back, followed swiftly by a flash of who I knew that was ‘free’ or had been giving me vibes and realised that it’s his brother. I couldn’t see it before – his brother is suggesting we do things together as we live in the same town. We get on really well and can talk about anything. I actually have more in common with his brother and he is being really nice to me and we are having serious eye contact, the feelings are starting to brew up and the chemistry is there & i'm getting a bit overwhelmed by these emotions thata are flooding in like someone switched the light ib. We’ve been in each other’s company for the passed 4 days 'as mates' and we’ve even went to the cinema together and for a meal. Any idea what’s going on? Was I supposed to be with his brother all along? Can that happen now? Will his brother allow his younger brother to develop a relationship with me?
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reader, secretbrothers +, writes (9 January 2006):
it will never work you cant tell your boyfriend without hurting him and the family wont accept you ,im sure like they do now. so you either hurt your boyfriend and take a chance or you live your life with this secret and you give up your happiness instead of deeply hurting not just your boyfriend but the people around you, i know it sucks im in the same boat.
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reader, Tim +, writes (27 November 2005):
 People who cheats they get hurt always, and you are one of them, you are having sex with a under age guy and u will be hurted once he comes back and finds out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2005): OK cheating on your b/f was bad enough. But cheating on him with his younger brother! OMG the fact that hes still underage doesn't help you very much. U've got yourself in a terrible mess here. Ditch the brother and at least TRY and stay loyal if you don't want to get dumped
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2005): He's a minor. Does that answer your question?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2005): You boyfriend finds out, he will report you to the cops. I also see somethign in your future......a large crowd of people.....they are yelling something.....sould like they are saying JERRY JERRY JERRY JERRY.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (13 November 2005):
 What the heck do you mean you don't want to hurt the older brother? YOU ALREADY HAVE you dope. What are you thinking? Where are this kid's parents anyway?! You may have lots of time to ponder on your situation if law enforcement finds out about this mess, missy. Walk away from this and fast, don't leave any fingerprints behind either. Sheesh!
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reader, pops +, writes (13 November 2005):
Whoa! At the very least, you are contributing to the sexual delinquency of a minor, and can be prosecuted criminally. Other than sex, what in the world would you have in common with a boy three years younger than you? Back off. You are hurting both of them. Stop.
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