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writes:i have been chatting with a guy on the net for the past 2 months. i understand him well. he too cares for me. but i think im falling in love with him. because most of the time, im thinking about him only. im 18 and he is 24, if he doesnt contact me a day, i dont feel well. please help me out. i want to know whether im in love with him and whether he is in love with me.if both are true, then what should i do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): well, in my case, i kinda met the fellow online via hi5 but happened to have a relative of mine having lived with him(kinda sharing a flat). so tho we have not met physically and i have fallen God knows how deep for him, at least i kinda have a bit of reliable information abt the kinda fellow he is and it tallies with what i have known him to be so far.
we had been talking online and sure on cell fon 4months be4 my relative got to know we even basically knew each other. Cant wait to meet him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): How can you possibly be in love with someone you have never met. Sorry, but people are totally different when you are with them. I cannot understand people who fall in love in such a way. You need to meet the person. Get to know their true personality and feelings. These things are never quite truthfully portrayed from a distance. Sorry, but i dont think it can happen, but that is my opinion.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 I believe that you can love someone you have never seen. At least the person whom you percieve them to be. Love itself is concious choice based upon the feelings you have for someone but beware! The internet is filled with liars and cheats, perverts and and pediphiles. There are many types of people found in chat rooms. Be cautious and be wise.
Take your time in getting to know this person. I would suggest several months before you even meet. Don't go alone and meet in a public place. Your safety is important. Get details about this person so you can feel more confident about meeting them. Don't give out your phone number or address until you have better knowledge about this person.
If you are lonely or depressed you could be forming the attachment to fill a void in our life. You could be a needy person who craves the attention this person is giving you or perhaps you are co-dependent.
If you have had failed relationships where the persons left you it may be causing you to feel emotionally out of it for fear of this person leaving you too.Perhaps it was that you were neglected in that relationship of course you will seek the attention of the new love interest and if you don't get it you will feel unloved, perhaps unwanted.
Take a break from the chat for a few days. Do be polite enough to let this person know you need some time away from chat. Just use a simple excuse that you have some things to do. If they understand it will show they at least have concern and are willing to give you your needed time away to tend to yourself.
Find something to do to keep you busy. Read, hangout with friends. Go to a place where they karoake and sing! Just anything to keep your mind off of the chat and him for a few days. If you can find a good friend to hang out with to help you take your mind off of things for a bit. Confide in them if you need. Talk it out.
Evaluate your feelings after the few days off and see if you still miss him as bad the next go around. Don't spend as much time on chatting if can become addictive. So can falling in love over the internet! Think about all the things you have read here and most of sll, "To your ownself be true."
I hope you find the love of your life but take the time to know that it is really love so don't rush things and it will happen one day when you least expect it.
Best wishes and God bless.
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reader, InDoubt2007 +, writes (23 October 2007):
Its very common to get attracted to other person on internet. Have u met him? Its possible that after meeting him u dont like him or it can be vice versa as well. I would suggest not to get so emotional that parting from him affects you badly.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (23 October 2007):
You could be in love. BUTTTT what seems to be happening from what you have said is you are allowing yourself to become dependent on him. You said you dont feel well if you havent spoken to him in a days time. This isnt healthy. Its bad to allow yourself to be so dependent on someone. Thats not love. Its fine to want to be with somoene so much, but to go to the point of actually feeling sick isnt healthy.
Dont allow yourself to continue to fall anymore into that trap, ive been in it and its hard ot get out of.
As for whether or not you guys are in love, you could be but i dont think i can really judge. I assume you havent met? So you may be inlove with who you think you know, however sometimes poeple are very different in real life, so the person you feel you are in love with may not be 100% real.
If you really have deep feelings for him then why not meet up? Remember to be as safe as you can. Like meet in public and tell a friend or family memeber where yo uare going, when and when you shoudl be home. I think after geting to knwo each other in person you will then be able to be more certain about whether or not you both love each other for who you each truly are.
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