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writes:hi everybody, this really sucks im in a relationship and hes great but im 7 months pregnant and lately im feeling so jealous and insecure cause sometimes he looks at other women and i feel so ugly if he leaves for 1 hr., im already thinking hes cheating on me. before i got pregnant everything was normal. now all of a sudden I emotionally abuse him. i know ive been a really mean person but i dont know whats really going on. sometimes i cry so much cause i know i havent been great but what should i do? please help me
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reader, louise100  +, writes (6 May 2009):
Hi there
Dont worry its quite normal to feel horrible when you are pregnant. Its the hormones that can turn your feelings all over ther place.
Tell your man how you are feeling - that you are sensitive at the moment as you are getting bigger and bigger and dont feel that you are looking your best. You get hurt and insecure when he looks at other women as you dont feel you come up to their standard at the moment - hes probably not aware that he is annoying you so much. Men can be a bit insensative at times!
Bet he is really proud of you carrying his child and is not really interested in anyone else..its your vivid imagination caused by your hormones.
When you feel like being horrible to him, count to 10 to reconsider and try and be nice instead, i know its hard when you feel aweful.
Good luck with your pregnancy and when you are holding your beautiful baby it will all be worth it
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): Looking at other women is probably not the best move on his part, but HOW is he looking? I mean, he should be able to look at his surroundings and not have to walk around with blinders on like a horse. If you think about it, he could have just glanced. Just glanced not with any intent beyond that. I don't see how a man can't look at women they make up at least 50% of the world's population. Like I said though, HOW he is looking is all important.Its gonna be OK.. Congratulations for your baby.You are in a "delicate state" with your pregnancy and all, and your man no doubt understands this, so don't worry too much about how you are treating him. Too much.. but don't go psycho on him either..lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): Its hormones. They turn us into sobbing, angry, confrontational women. I remember when I was pregnant, I KNEW I was being a bitch to my husband but couldn't stop lol. How far along are you? I wouldnt worry too much, I know it seems like its going to go on forever but before you know it, that new baby will be here and you will be feeling alot more like yourself. Talk to your ob for some calming and de-stressing ideas. Try soaking in a warm tub with some candles and nice music to calm you down and help with any pregnancy aches that might be making you irritible. Also make sure you are getting enough rest, that plays into it alot. I also used a pregnancy friendly yoga DVD and that helped immensely. It helps you feel centered and loosens up tight muscles. Also make sure you have a really good support group. And above all, tell your man, "This wont last forever!" lol. You can do it, good luck. If you ever need to talk my PM box is always open................J
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (6 May 2009):
 You know when my mom was pregnant, with a big wedding ring on her finger, some coworker came up to her and my dad and said she'd love to get him in a room for five minutes alone, with my mom standing right there, she said this.
Talk to him about this "looking at other women." Guys can be so naive sometimes. Of course if he's gaping at someone you notice. Tell him that it's rude when he does that, and that if he wants to do that, he should make it less noticeable and not do it around you.
How do you emotionally abuse him?
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