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writes:My ex knows I still have feelings for him, but he doesn't see me in that way more like a sister. He admitted when we were together he only saw me as a good close friend, not a gf so he held back and never kissed me he said it didn't feel right. This has dented me but at least he's being honest. We are best friends.I've asked my ex to help me get over him. I know this seems weird but I'm desperate and have tried everything:Finding someone elseNot talking to him as much and even at all during the summer holidaysTrying to forget about usTrying to be mad at him (for some reason i can't get mad at him)Trying to just be friendsThinking positively about myselfThinking negatively about myselfTelling myself move on its never gonna happenBlocking out my thoughtsCrying everydayNothing works, I asked my ex to hurt me maybe that would work. Like saying hurtful things to me or something but he's refusing, he does want me to get over him, but he said he can't bring himself to hurt me. I was wondering does anyone know any ways my ex could help me get over him, or anything I can do myself plz. Advice much appreciated.x.
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reader, blazee +, writes (19 April 2009):
 believe me, i broke up with a girl but we were still best mates and i felt the same about her because we were still talking like we used to, only thing was we werent going out. took me longer then a year to get over her because of that. you just need to meet someoneelse and eventually you will get over him
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's been a year isn't that enough time
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reader, blazee +, writes (18 April 2009):
truth is it just takes time. You may never actually get over him completely since you didnt have a harsh brake up, but eventually you will learn to get past him. because your still friends its much more harder to get passed those feelings, and asking him to help you wont aid your attempts to get past your emotions, since hes still gonna be there being the guy you fell in love with. eventually you will get over him, and even though some may still be there your emotions will fade and you will meet someone who means more to you. trick is giving it time.
all the best x
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