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writes: Hi, I hope someone can help.I used to suffer from agoraphobia and I guess I still do to a degree but I have worked really hard to overcome it.My boyfriend is the type who appears to be attracted to independent, unclingy, intelligent women. We used to live together but he didn't want that, he felt I did his head in and wanted space. I had to find somewhere else to live; which I did.I haven't been well lately so I have spent all my time at his (I work from home too). I think I can say that my life has not been easy because I have suffered from anxiety for over 20 years, I haven't been able to do the things that others do and have (I don't own my own house, don't have a car, never been abroad)However, I long desperately for more independence, I am learning to drive and I am always trying to think of ways of improving my life but I am so isolated. I csn't get on a bus easily, I can't get around and I am becoming very depressed.I feel that if I went back to my own place(and I'm always worried my partner is going to tell me to go) then I will just be there on my own, will just fade away. I can't stand that happening to me; I am a survivor and always have been.I like who I am and I believe myself to be strong. I resent my boyfriend thinking I am clingy because I know that all I want is to be loved and to love back. The thought of going home or being in an empty house fills me with complete desperation.I have friends but they are all a distance from me that I can't travel. I hate asking or relying on my boyfriend for anything.I just want a life. Please can someone help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2006): Have a look into a vitamin deficiency called pyroluria, it is the result of an excess body chemical that causes excretion of b6 vitamin. The result is cronnically low serotnin levels and causes intense worry and anxiety(I have suffered and it was hell for years). No doctor told me of this, it was a private clinic for adhd (they suggested a test). the treatment is vitamin b6 in high doses. try a super strength b vitamin complex, since taking this supplement I have stopped experincing compulsive worrying and the life destroying limitations of a mind that could never feel happy. if you worry when in a car that it could crash at any moment or cannot spend time on your own without feeling deep deep despair, look into this. It sounds like baloney but I never thought I would become a happy confident easygoing individual who could feel relaxed most of the time. in refection my life is heaven now comparred to two years ago when i would worry so much I could stay up for 48 hours stressing about how much I was worrying. doctors can help but hey are often lacking information as a result of the drug companies desire to make money out of mental halth issues, by misdiagnosis of very simple body imbalances. also- very important- get an omega 3 oil supplement, these do wonders for your brain
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reader, Toria +, writes (21 September 2006):
 Well firstly you need to go see your doctor and see if he can refer you to see someone because problems don't just go away on their own and you need to sort through this somehow, secondly I would start by telling your boyfriend exactly what you are going through, he can't understand or accept or even help you if he doesn't know.
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