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writes:Help, i'm confused and embarrassed. Over the last few months at a local evening class, I've been chatting briefly and platonically to a lovely girl whom i have always been attracted to. I was delighted to hear from her buddy that she found me attractive although she had a boyfriend.I thought 'great', i'll just chill, be friendly when i see her and wait to see what happens with her BF as i knew they didn't always get on. The smiles and eyes across the class continued and my feelings grew. I still managed to stay cool and friendly. Anyway, they have just parted a few weeks ago and once again I found myself chatting away to her about this and that,when I blurted out something like" I look forward to seeing you and you brighten\lightup the classroom when you walk in"It just slipped outShe quickly made her excuses and left.Why? Surely, what I said was flattering whether or not i was meaning to hit on her ( she probably thought i was and maybe i was!) Is she interested and maybe it is too soon for her to handle this so she freaked ? Is she no longer interested and thought lets get out of here ? Did her break up have anything to do with this?Afterall, I thought\knew she was attracted me ? I did let my guard down briefly but it's not like i went way over the top regarding my feelingsor did I? What went wrong? Will she feel flattered and how do i behave when I see her again?Any advices appreciated. many thx.Confused
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reader, Toria +, writes (21 September 2006):
 I think maybe it was too much too soon! She's just come out of a relationship probably got alot going on in her head trying to sort through that and then you say what you say, her hasty retreat may well have just been fear or just wasn't expecting you to blurt that out at her and she just reacted and went, sometimes we are put in situations that at the time we cant deal with maybe because of other things or maybe just wasn't expecting it and we panic, I think the best thing you can do is say sorry when you next see her and give her time then possibly after that say something to her but try starting small like meeting up for a few drinks or something along them lines.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (21 September 2006):
 I don't think you said anything that was "over the top". I think most people would be flattered by that comment. You may have caught her off guard and she wasn't prepared for a response, so she left. Or, even though she and her boyfriend broke up, she still may have strong feelings for him. . . and she may not be ready to consider anyone else. The only other possibility is that she considers you a friend and not interested in anything more. She still should have thanked you for the compliment though. Good luck.
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