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writes: i have been dating a man in his sixtys for 2 years. he is a lover of the outdoors and loves to fish and hunt. this is fine with me except i don't like for him to take 2,3 and 7 night trips to do it. i don't mind local fishing and hunting. he wants this freedom and i get very upset with it. i want to get engaged but he knows that i don't like for him to go away on these trips so he is putting the engagement off. i was married to a man for a lot of years and he traveled with his job very often. i was let at home to raise the kids and his attitude was i get to go and you don't. i am willing to travel on these trips with this man but he likes to be with his man friends only. i really resent this and honestly i think he is using this to keep from making a committment to me. i was so hurt by my husband wanting to travel without me and i know that i have a lot of deep scars from this. please tell me how i can best deal with this situation. i love this man very much and he says that he loves me. please help.everyone tells me to keep busy while he is gone but there is not much that i really want to do. he treats me very well but i just's can't get past his wanting to leave me to be with his friends..i see it as something missing in his life. thanks
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reader, Doncella +, writes (21 September 2006):
Well I think when some one loves you should be able to sacrifice some things because been in a relationship is a mutual commitment both of you should give in. If both of you are not ready to do so, sorry to say this but maybe the love is not as big as the sacrifice ( in this case if hi loves more doing thing with his friends than been with the person hi say hi loves then hi doesn’t love you that much. )Don’t let him make the decision, you do it because is your life after all.Just ask your self if this is what you want.
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reader, Doncella +, writes (21 September 2006):
Well I think when some one loves you should be able to sacrifice some things because been in a relationship is a mutual commitment both of you should give in. If both of you are not ready to do so, sorry to say this but maybe the love is not as big as the sacrifice ( in this case if hi loves more doing thing with his friends than been with the person hi say hi loves then hi doesn’t love you that much. )Don’t let him make the decision, you do it because is your life after all.Just ask your self if this is what you want.
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reader, Toria +, writes (21 September 2006):
 The things he does now has he always done them? Like before you got together? If so you can't really ask him to stop doing something he enjoys that you knew about before you got with him, I do understand that you want his time and attention but surely everyone needs their own time and space to do the things they enjoy, some of us are the kind of people that want to spend every second with their partners but others do need to do their own things and be their own person, if he does give you time aswell then obviously there is a problem but if your getting his time and attention aswell apart from these trips then you should enjoy that time with him, try getting yourself a hobby that you could enjoy.
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