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writes:Dont know if something is wrong with me or what. but my boyfriend and i have been intimate for 2years and he is my first and i have not yet had any O's wit him. i be faking it and i really want to have one so any suggestions on what i should do??
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reader, Beauty8990 +, writes (15 December 2009):
Beauty8990 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes he and i watch porn and yes i can please myself and i do let him know what feels good to me.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (14 December 2009):
 Sadly, that's what happens when you fake. You're lying to him and cheating yourself. At this point, it's really going to hurt him to know you've been faking for two years, but he thinks what he's been doing has been working for you. He has to break all the habits you've reinforced and encouraged.
You HAVE to be in charge of teaching him. He doesn't know what feels good or bad for you, only you feel it. You have to tell him what works and what doesn't, verbally. "Not there, faster, harder, a little higher up, use your fingers, etc"
But I agree with Satindesire's questions. First and foremost, you have to be able to masturbate and know your own body before you can guide him, and even then it will really be more about the clitoris than penetration. Experiment with oral.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): Stop faking it for a start. Otherwise he'll think he's doing a great job. Lead him in the right direction, let him know what turns you on and if need be, show him.
Looking at it from another angle, it's rather like him telling you your cooking is fantastic when he's really thinking it's shite and not fit to feed the dog with. You'd rather know so you could do something about it, right?
In a word - communication.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): This is silly. How do you ever expect him to get it right when you fake it, thereby leading him to think he's doing great when he might be far off target.
Tell him right away you've been lying. Tell him why etc, try to make yourself look real bad and beg for hs forgiveness. This is a horrible thing to lie about. For a man, giving his loved one an orgasm means everything. When he founds out that first off you've fooled him, he might feel ridiculed and made fun out of. Second, he will feel less of a man because he never got you there. But part of that problem lies on you my good girl.
He can make you come, but you need to be open, honest, take the time to figure out how you work, and what he can do right. Read up on similar questions that have been asked on here on how to reach an orgasm.
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