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writes:Is it odd for a man not to look at you while you're having sex? My boyfriend rarely makes eye contact while we're having sex. I've discussed this with him and also his preference for wanting to have sex in the dark. If the lights are on he usually puts his head down on my shoulder or the pillow and it make me think he's not mentally present or he could just be having sex with anyone. I'm in my 40's so I'm not an inexperienced girl and I've never encountered this before while with a man. And this is not to say I expect him to look at me the entire time or stare. It's an unsettling feeling and it makes me think there's something wrong with him when there is ZERO eye contact. Any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2015): No, you don't always have to make eye contact. But making none at all takes away from the whole experience in my opinion. I think you need a certain amount of eye contact. But needs vary from one person to another.Eye contact can be very hot during sex.Ever hear of the term "eye f^cking? It isn't just during foreplay or courting. It is for the whole sexual experience.It has a purpose. For me, it definitely increases intensity, connection and passion. I want my BF to look at me during sex. That way I KNOW he is into me and thinking of me. Who knows? If your BF never looks at you, I am sure you could be worried he is fantasizing about someone else. Am I right? This may not be the case but you worry it could be and it leaves you feeling a little insecure.In fact, last night when having sex with my BF, I asked him to f^ck me with his eyes while having sex with me. It was pretty amazing. Intense beyond any intense you can ever experience.All you have to do is ask.... Tell your BF what you like and I am sure he would be more than willing to do it for you. Just as you are willing to please him.Ask him about it if it bothers you. I am sure it isn't anything personal. And tell him that you would like more eye contact. We need to communicate our desires and what floats our boat in the bedroom. Be open and honest with each other and it will only improve your sexual relationship.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (6 June 2015):
 After rereading your post and the comments, I want to follow up with a question as to whether he makes eye contact during normal interaction with people, during a conversation, for example? Not making eye contact during casual interaction with you and others would be troublesome because it is a typical symptom of spectrum autism.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 June 2015):
 During foreplay, eye contact is great. But in my opinion, when it's time for the "nitty-gritty", I'm more about feelings and sensations than making sure eyes are where they should be. I care more about if my guy is enjoying it as well as I am than whether or not his eyes are anywhere. Usually, eyes are closed at this point.
I also like it better in the dark or fireplace or candles, because with lights on, it feels like I'm performing or about to have surgery.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (5 June 2015):
Well, I am one of such guys who will not look in the eye during sex. I'd rather look at my woman overall and melt how she is enjoying the experience. Staring in the eyes during sex feels "creepy" as though I am at a staff meeting. Also, eyes do not give me not one clue how she she likes what I'm doing in bed nor a clue on how she responds to what i do. Plus most erotic parts of my woman during sex are not her eyes. Perhaps meeting of the eyes and kiss sharing, but staring at her eyes while humping is a definitive no-no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2015): How long have the two of you been together?
Sometimes it just takes getting to know each other better and relaxing and feeling more comfortable with each other.
I personally rarely look my boyfriend in the eyes during intercourse, but will look him in the eyes when kissing or during foreplay. I enjoy having sex with my eyes closed. I also find that I enjoy it more in the dark.
Maybe it's just personal preference.
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