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writes:I am meeting a guy for coffee today and I've got a strong feeling he's going to ask me to be his exclusive girlfriend. We've been seeing each other for a month or so and I like him, but I guess I'd like to get to know him some more before rushing into anything. Normally my relationships start out as friendships and slowly progress, but I've only known this guy for a few months. So I'm wondering if there's a good way of turning him down if he does ask me out today? Something that won't put him off seeing me and spending time getting to know me still.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): Hi,
I suggest that is a good idea,dont rush into anything.
If he approaches u, just ask and 2 give sometime 2 think about it n would like 2 know more about him.
He might be serious with the relationship so dont be 2 harsh n use the direct words which can hurt his feeling.Such as"Sorry,i'm not ready 2 have special relationship but I'm really interested in continuing our relationship as good friends until we know more n ready 4 it."
In meantime, find out about him n his family.
Lastly, I hope u will sucess in ur relationship.
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reader, AngellicaWaters  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 If a man is driven away by honesty, then that isn't the kind of man you want in your life. Just be honest with him. Tell him you like him and that you are very interested in getting to know more about him.
Then, tell him that you like for relationships to evolve from friendships first. This is a great way to for you two to find out if you are compatible too and anyone would benefit from this method.
If you won't be seeing anyone else romantically, tell him this too. That you just need a little more time before you can decide to put a label on this relationship.
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reader, 55plus55  +, writes (2 July 2009):
Ahh, this is not new.My suggestion is this, try and see a girlfriend and boyfriend relationship as only as serious as you make it.Most guys look at it that way, so just because you're girlfriend and boyfriend doesn't mean you have to move in together, or even have sex.What it does mean, for the guy anyway, is that you're only interested in him for the time being and going to give him a chance.So I guess this isn't the answer you wanted to hear, but any other answer will probably drive him away.Sorry, life can be hard but if you tell the guy you're not ready for a relationship or something along those lines, he's going to wander off because he's going to assume you want to date other men for a while, and that is a shot in the arm for a guy who's only been seeing one girl for a month.
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