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writes:After a difficult childhood and being messed up in all sorts of ways I finally took a chance for this guy I met at a Veteran's Workshop. There was this instant attraction that I stopped seeing this guy I had dated just to get together with this person who seemed to be so perfect for me. Not long after he became my first real boyfriend since high school, which is a pretty crazy thing for me to do. It's a long distance relationship spanning over 1000 miles, but that worked ok for us. I'd fly to visit him, he flew to visit me. I ended up visiting him more though as it is more difficult for him to go through airports with a service dog. His health has been spiralling down and some of my visits were just to help him in the hospital.He's the first person in a long time who could make me cry so much. I'm not a crier. Well, he just got put in the hospital for 2 weeks, but I was stuck at my place with school and work and now today he is discharged. He's still having lots of seizures. He sent me a text message saying he wants to take a break to focus on recovering. It breaks my heart. It's the end isn't it? I'm going on an epic journey next year that will take me away from most people for years. This was going to be the last bits of time we had together. I understand his problems and he does have a lot of them. It breaks my heart, but it would have happened anyways. I even gave him a chance before I committed to the trip to ask me to stay, but all he said was to follow my dreams. I'm so hurt now that I just need a stranger's outlook on this situation.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Well, it's then end of things, at least for now. Once your epic journey ends, if you feel it may be right, try contacting him again. Lots of things can happen in those years you'll be away, but that doesn't mean he might not be in a better place when you get back. I wouldn't wait for him. If you find a new love on your journey, I'd explore it. Life is too short to dwell on the past. I wish you the best for your future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): its a hard spot for both of you. I would tell him you really want to stay so you can be with him. He might just feel guilty keeping you from such a trip to just stay and care for him. Thats how I would feel. But if you want to stay, just tell him you do and tell him why. say the same thing you told us. If i were him id tell u to go as well if u didnt tell me u wanted to stay, just because i didnt want to hold u back. Tell him your followed your heart and it led u back to him
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