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writes:my boyfriend and i have a perfect relationship except he doesn't like to go out, talk on the phone, or hang out and do fun adventurous things..we are both seniors in high school at different schools, so there's a bind, but we only live 17 miles apart, i have already confronted him and asked for more "quality time", but each time nothing improves, what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): Perfect compared to what? You don't really paint a very pretty picture of your relationship. You have told your boyfriend that you are unhappy and he hasn't changed. Don't make the mistake of so many women of trying to change your boyfriend, he is who he is and you can either accept that or decide that you want more from a relationship.
I would advice you talk to him again, but it sounds like you've done enough talking. By keep on speaking to him about how he can improve himself you'll come across as a nag and it will only serve to make you both more resentful towards each other.
If you want a more social, communicative boyfriend who is up for more fun and exciting times then you're going to have to find it in a new boyfriend. You're at that age you should be max'ing out your enjoyment whilst you don't have any massive life commitments. It'll be a horrible feeling looking back on those years one day and feel you wasted some of them, bare that in mind!
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reader, mcbirdie  +, writes (6 June 2007):
 Considering how many things your boyfriend doesn't want to do with you, I'm not sure why you are calling it a "perfect" relationship.
Relationships require work and compromise, it's true, but they should also be enjoyable and a connection between two people who enjoy being together and sharing things. If all you get is the work, that doesn't sound like a very worthwhile thing to me.
Talk to your boyfriend again; stress to him that this is an issue that you need resolution on. Make clear suggestions--what do you want? A phone call every two nights? A plan for a fun date every week? Make yourself clear and if he still doesn't respond, then you'll know that this relationship isn't fulfilling the second part of the equation.
Best of luck.
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