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writes:I'm 22 and have 2 kids 3 and 1 years old. I've been with my boyfriend who's 19 for 1 year and 4 months and they think of him as their dad. He told me last night that he doesn't love me as much as he used to and he's only staying to try and make things work and he doesn't know why he feels this way and then I got the 'it's not you it's me line! Our relationship has been rocky for a few months as he's always going into these weird depressive moods and keeps himself distant from me and recently he's been going out more and more and now I don't know what to think or where this leaves our relationship. Maybe I should just end it to save myself from the pain of rejection please help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, noodle +, writes (26 May 2010):
noodle is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys thankyou for the help I'm just in limbo at the moment don't know what to do or what to think I was thinkin maybe us goin on a break for a while see what happens. We have got a holiday booked in 5 weeks time. I also caught 2 girls comin out of my house the other day while I was out and they were leavin when I came back girls that I'm not particuly keen on that he often sees! X
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 May 2010):
 "It's not you it's me " ?
They should make a law that assigns a hefty fine to whomever is caught saying this old line again. Or maybe even a jail sentence - or at least community service.
Alas, as you already know- it's a line. He is losing interest because he is only 19, too young to be in a serious relationship and a father figure for two toddlers. So, guess what, his "depressive moods " ,strangely enough, bring him to go out more and more ( he must not be that depressed after all, then, right ? )-
You have seen the writing on the wall and you know where your relationship is heading to. Of course, only you better than anybody else can know if it would be worth tryng an extra effort to make things work- and if he is seriously willing to do it too. But in general the "it's not you it's me " is the kiss of death.
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reader, Waiting for an angel  +, writes (25 May 2010):
Well if you still have feelings for him dont give up.Something similar happened in my relationship. Routine , and boredom can really kill your feelings for each other, try breaking your routine make him look foward to spending time with you when he comes home . Hes not interested becaue its the same old thing day in & day out. If you want you can send me a msg if i can help you out.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (25 May 2010):
 Yeah, this relationship is done. Just end it and let him go. It sounds like he's living with you...end it. He's very young, and most young guys aren't serious at that age. He's wanting to date other people, if he isn't doing so already. Best thing for you to do is end it with him and move onto someone else yourself.
You have kids? Are any of them his? Make sure he' supporting his kids.
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