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writes:thank you for taking the time to answer!Basically, me and Him are in a long distnace relationship. We have been together for just over seven months, not met yet. Lately, I've begun to feel a little uneasy with the relationship. At the begining, everything about him was...perfect. He was nice to me, charming, and genuinely seemed so into me. But now, things have rocketed down and stayed that way. When we talk, i have to start and keep the conversation going, he replies after a long time, if he does, and I really feel like talking to me is a chore to him. Example? Before: -How are you? [me] -Certainly better now, with you [him]. Now? -How are you? -Alive. He oftentimes disappears and replies with one word answers. Am i just overracting? Beacuse depsite all this, he does talk every single day. And then, theres the occasional day, (the days im still hanging in there for) where he says things that "just make my insides jump in joy" kind of thing. It's just so nice in those days, but they seem to be coming fewer and fewer. I dont know what do, but breaking up just seems to harsh, but i don't trust my judgement. We have had an awkward time before, but we overcame that, and came out stronger. But i have a feeling this can't be fixed like that again. I'm tired of waiting, i just want him to treat me like he used to, and if things aren't like they were for him, i wish he'd just say. But i know things are just as serious for him, i understand him well enough for that. PLEASE tell me what i should do, what i should say? im super confused.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2012): Presario2010,
Thanks for answering. To be honest I do not feel like I've been non-responsive to him. Actually, I tried as even though I'm not mushy in all areas of my life, I am when it comes to him. And so I tried to (and failed) toning down saying romantic things to him. I havent changed and I truly feel like if I try any harder I'd seem clingy, and to be honest, I'm not a clingy person.
Today was our anniversary and he didn't even turn up. I know, maybe he had work to do and got caught up, but the guy at the start...he was so romantic for our one month anniversary. As the months go on, he seems to drop his energy levels. The date didn't matter to me at the start and it did to him, so I changed my view. Now when the one day in the month means something to me, it seems like a liability to him. What should I do?
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reader, Presario2010  +, writes (9 September 2012):
I'am also in a long distance relationship but my thing is that iam the guy not the girl.................but for example when he talks to you do YOU also answer the way he answers you or is he the one putting in the effort and you just love to hear him and you do not like tell him how you feel? Maybe he is sick of being the one putting in the effort, but just think about it this way how many couples in real relationships take breaks from each other days without even talking, you cant expect him to be happay every day, maybe he is going through a a bad time right know and he just doesnt feel like talking and wants to just be alone
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