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writes:I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly two years now. I am a year older than him, but we are both teenagers, and are seniors in high school. The first year of our relationship was wonderful, and then, for some reason, after we hit our one-year-anniversary, things have begun to go down hill. He only regards me nicely when we are alone: when his friends are around, he treats me like dirt. Also, when we are at school, he is a complete jackass, but as soon as we leave campus, he is the sweetheart that I fell in love with. When I ask him what's wrong, he gets angry and says "Nothing!", even though I know there is something, which only urges me to keep asking, which irritates him more. And when I try to talk to him, he doesn't say anything, he just gets more angry. He tells me he'll be more affectionate with me in public (just holding hands and little pecks is all I'm asking for), but when we're at school or out, it's like pulling teeth just to get him to put his arm around me. What is going on? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): yeeees, i once dated someone like this. you know the couple that never shows affection? yea. everyone does. so why? maybe he feels like a chump or less manly in front of his friends. i would worry if he was like this all the time, but since he softens when alone, it may just be the way he is.
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reader, AylaJ +, writes (6 September 2007):
This happened to me in my last realtionship. Exactly the same thing. Treating me like dirt in front of his friends never touching me in public. He even had the nerve to make me feel guilty for putting my hand on his leg in front of other people when he couldn't keep his hands off me in the beginning.If you don't want that then its not what you deserve. He ended things with me right before our anniversary (eventhough he said he was excited for our anniversary). His answers might not really mean anything right now so don't bother asking him whats wrong or what can you do. Ask yourself if you're happy and if you deserve this. The best thing that my ex did for me was dump me because now I'm in a relationship that makes me happy with a man that would never treat me that way. I beleive its time to move on and put this pain to a rest. I feel for you! I remember the daily pain. Goodluck!
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (6 September 2007):
Don't press him for a public display of affection. His friends or parents may be giving him a hard time. The same happened to me. Whe we got alone things warmed up considerably. I think they were just jealous.
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reader, broken babe +, writes (6 September 2007):
 guys tend to be pretty stubborn like are his friends making fun of him by saying hes whipped and such? spend some alone time together cuddle next to him kiss him im not sure but this might help him want you more im not sure but thats all i can say
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