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writes: What's up Cupid? Maybe you can give me a little advice with this.I met this bombshell named Claire at a party several years ago(halloween 2003). I was a junior in high school and she was a sophomore(at different schools). We were both single at the time, we talked and flirted a lot but were both a little drunk. Later that night, we exchanged numbers, and she told her friends after I left how she liked me and how hot she thought I was (I got calls from at least 3 of her friends, haha). I was attracted to her too, but didn't really give it too much thought because I was dating a couple other girls that I really liked. A couple weeks later, I called her and asked if she wanted to go out - we went to a movie and talked for a while but I wasn't feeling it, we didn't really click. She seemed shy at first and told me how she'd liked me a lot at the party. I thought she was cute, but the connection just wasn't there, and we both knew it.We would talk every now and then on AIM (I think she got my screen name from a friend) and I'd talk to her on the phone once every 2-3 months or so, just to be friendly and even though I didn't really have any sexual intentions with her, I thought she was a nice girl. After about 6 months, we pretty much stopped talking at all.About a year later (July/Aug 2004 i think) I went to a party and she just happened to be there. She was looking hot as fuck. I was there with a friend and we both started talking to her, but he could tell I liked her and he went to go do his own thing. She was flirting with me like crazy but she also mentioned that she had a boyfriend. I didn't give a flying fuck and was a lot more attracted to her this time than before. We ended up going out to the side of the house, and I started to kiss her but she stopped me and said she couldn't do that to her boyfriend. A little more coaxing and she was making out with me. I could tell that she liked me even more now, but after a little bit I stopped and told her that I had to leave (which was true) to pick up this girl that was waiting for me, but that I'd talk to her soon. She didn't want me to leave and was trying to convince me to stay but I said I really couldn't and I left. She called me about an hour later and just said, "hey, come back" you know, the usual. We tried to plan to do something it seemed like every weekend for the next month or so, but it never happened and for one reason or another we stopped talking again.Again, we kept in touch every now and then - we both were attracted to each other and enjoyed talking but she might have thought I didn't want to hang out with her. I don't really know why, but it's true, I didn't really have the desire to go out with her.She messaged me about three weeks ago, just to see how I was, and we ended up talking for a little while. She is STILL with the boyfriend she cheated on with me at that party, but she said she felt terrible about it then, told her boyfriend, and he forgave her - and that she hadn't cheated on him since. I also have a girlfriend, Megan, that I've now been dating for a little over a year - I really like her and have a great time with her but in various situations I have cheated on her with 20+ girls. It would be very hard for me to break up with her and I know it would crush her, but I am a little tired of it and in some ways, ready to move on. But, if I did, I know I'd miss her a lot - she's an amazing, smart, beautiful girl.A few days later, I called Claire and talked to her again. We both wanted to see each other, and both knew the other had a girlfriend/boyfriend. Things have been getting rocky with her and her boyfriend, and he seems controlling and as if he gets mad at her often. They have broken up several times in the last few months, she said, but ended up getting right back together. -- She started texting me and we talked a few more times, and ended up going out last Friday night. She looked incredibly beautiful and I told her... she denied it, and acted a little shy. We went to a couple of parties and hit it off immediately. I was a little flirty with her but not too much, and she was the same with me (touching, smiling, getting really close, etc.) It was completely different than the times before -- We clicked instantly and were laughing, joking, and having a great time. I never thought this would happen, but I know it was mutual. She told me when I took her home how awesome she thought I was and how she wanted to hang out more, and I said the same to her. I smiled and hugged her and she looked up at me, I was sure she liked me.Now I am completely infatuated with this girl and can't get her off my mind. Even though her boyfriend's an asshole, I know she loves him. I haven't called her yet, but I have texted her and I think I made a mistake, I asked her what was up and told her I missed her. She just said something joking/friendly back about how she didn't have school that day and asked me a question, but didn't say anything back to the "i miss you". I replied and answered her question and she didn't say anything else. I have never been in a situation like this, all the girls I have been with have just been flings besides the two relationships I've been in and haven't required much work of me. I really fucking want this girl and I know I would leave Megan for her. I don't know why I passed Claire up before when she would have been mine in a second. There are some small things going for me, I know she felt like she clicked with me this weekend. This isn't much, but she friended me on MySpace a while back and the day after we hung out last weekend, she moved me to #2 on her top 8 right behind her girl best friend (I hadn't been on it at all before). Then she posted some Top-8 survey and it asked several questions about #2 on her list, and she said "He's really awesome, I like him and have a great time talking to him" and she said some other nice things about me and something cute about my car.I didn't mean for this to be so long bro, sorry about that, hope you can stand reading it all. I'd really like to know what you think of this.. I'd do anything to be with this girl. Thanks a ton --Raul
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2006): 1st up if u think megan is an amazing smart beautiful girl then why have u cheated on her so much? and 2nd this really is not fair on megan u can not just use a person while u r waiting 4 sumthing better 2come along have u no respect 4 her at all. Ask yourself if u are willing to leave megan 4 another person then u r not totaly happy with the relationship and its kinder to end it now and hook up with sum1 else whilst u r single than to waste any more of yours and megans time in a relationship ur r not willing to fully commit 2. Might b harsh but its true u need 2 make a desicion.
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