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writes:There is a boy that is intending to have a relationship with me,we really are into each other but we hardly get time to be together or see each other. he doesn't live that far from me but its just a difficult situation when it comes to seeing each other. I feel like he might loose interest in me and I truly believe we can be something great.I am onlt 17 but everytime I try to let it go and hook up with someone else I just cant because I really just want and need him in my life...I ned crazy advice because I want to make things official and begin building our way forward. Reply to this Question
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (21 May 2019):
 First of all...YOU do not NEED any man in your life. It would be nice to be with him...but you do not need nor should you want a man.
Things may be difficult because you need to learn that lesson. What may look good because you can't have it, may be the worst thing for you when you do get it.
So stop being desperate and live your life. If it works out for you and him...great. if it does not, then it is for the best.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (21 May 2019):
First of all...YOU do not NEED any man in your life. It would be nice to be with him...but you do not need nor should you want a man.
Things may be difficult because you need to learn that lesson. What may look good because you can't have it, may be the worst thing for you when you do get it.
So stop being desperate and live your life. If it works out for you and him...great. if it does not, then it is for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2019): O.k you both like each other but you have problems meeting up.This does not sound as though you have much of a future together.It sounds as if it is all rather remote.The problem is that at your age and with all your future hopes and dreams built up in your head, you really could idealize someone and develop an infatuation for them.This is a rather soul destroying process whereby your imagination or your future mind links with your hormones to a point of excrutiating unreality.In fact some people enjoy a crush but I personally think it is a form of torture because your mind will continue to create false realities, such as,we will have a home together etc when in fact you can barely meet up to have a coffee or a burger together.Im saying this so you can apply a realistic timeline to your dreams.Think about it practically.How can it be the real thing if you cant even meet up?Bring yourself down to earth a bit and tell yourself that if you ever get to spend enough time together then it may have the potential to become an official dating thing. You must be able to enjoy each others company without sex (I know you dont imply that but some people confuse sex with time together).At 17 you want to do nice things and have nice plans and nice activites such as going out together for a day.You dont want to be a quick snog and a fumble because that isnt enough.Some men see women like candy and these guys/boys/have very sweet teeth.Some boys like to get experience to brag about amongst their friends.Not all romances work out.You should be working on friendship first and romance second.And dont forget to be kind to yourself.And romance is often just romance.It doesnt mean the other person has any initial commitment.It often means that the boy/guy/man wants to be seen as romantic.But it doesnt always mean that they are planning a life together with you.Technically they could just be building their reputation as a 'ladykilla'.And their sole intention is to leave you miserable and unhappy and longing for them while they are busy playing the same ol tune to someone else.That is why it is wise to spend time with the person prior to any kind of romantic or sexual involvement.So that you really know them well.It didnt work out well for Romeo and Juliet at all so dont aspire to follow in their footsteps.
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