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writes:About a year ago, I broke up with this guy I had been dating for about 6 months. I had a lot of reasons, but the main reason I did it was because we were at different parts of our lives. I was in college, and he had not yet finished high school, even though he's 2 years older than me.The breakup wasn't supposed to turn messy, but it did. It was an angry ending, and after about a week he moved back to his hometown. We cut all contact with each other and hadn't spoken in a year.Anyway, the past few weeks I haven't been able to get him out of my mind. So I figured there was no harm in looking him up on Facebook. We have now started talking again through MSN and e-mail. I'm starting to realize that maybe I'm not over him. That maybe I still love him.My question is, do you think he could ever take me back, knowing how it ended? There was no cheating or anything like that, just a lot of disagreements. And also, should I bring this up with him? Or let him broach the subject?
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (25 January 2010):
I think that you shouldn't try to rekindle anything if what broke you two up before is still there. In other words, if you two are still on different pages, then don't consider it because it will still be an issue.
I don't think you should bring anything up to him. You've only been talking for a few weeks. I agree that you should take things slow and really know for sure if the relationship can work this time around. There are times when things can work out with an ex, I think especially since in your case, one person in the relationship had some growing up to do and that can be taken care of. However, it's only been the course of a year, so I wouldn't expect too much to have changed in him. Anyway good luck and pace yourself, don't get ahead of yourself and jump in with two feet until you're 100% sure.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 January 2010):
I'm a firm believer that ex's should be left in the past. That said, there are some cases where ex's have got back together and it has worked out. I think you should take it slow and see what he says. Don't rush it, just see what he says, get to now him again and then see what happens. But I'd slow down.
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