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writes:My boyfriend of 2 years and I split up in September 2010 and yet I still don't seem to be over it. I still find myself thinking about him and the 'what ifs' and whenever anything goes wrong and I need a cry I always end up using it as an excuse to let out my heart ache. I'm scared I will never find anyone that I will love as much as him and although I have moved on in alot of respects, I can't fully let go.I wasn't the perfect girlfriend, I was too insecure and I know that I did push him away and was partly to blame for why he started treating me like he did. I lost all my confidence and battled with anorexia and although he did try to be supportive, he often put me down and made me feel alot worse. He lied to me alot and in the end he made me paranoid and concsious and a different person. Although we had over a year and a half of very good times together, things did get rubbish but I knew they could get better. In the end after letting me down continuously for over a month I split up with him, hoping it'd make him realise that he didn't want to lose me.. but I lost him.For months I wrote letters, made him things and I screamed and cried and probably made the situation much worse but I didn't know any different. I loved him so, so, so much but he started doing horrible things like giving me false hope and messing me around and then he got into a relationship with an ex-stripper. The ex-stripper was curvy with massive boobs and this upset me because she was everything I wasn't, when we'd split up I was 6 stone because I was stressed and battling with anorexia and it destroyed me that he'd found someone better, but I was also offended because she was an exstripper. When they split up he wanted to be friends with me and I was foolish and let him back into my life as a friend and he made an idiot out of me. We've had no contact since summer 2011 yet I still think about him most days, I haven't met anyone who has treated me well since and I can't picture myself loving anyone like I loved him :- ( I miss what we had and although I've accepted I'm never going to get it back, I just don't have a clue how to completely move on because it still hurts like it only happened yesterday and it hurts that he's moved on and forgot about me
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys so much, i feel quit refreshed and reassured to know that i'm not the only one dealing with this and that it can be done. i'm really grateful x
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reader, Crazy Fox  +, writes (18 February 2012):
 Oh dear, I feel for you. I am dealing with the same thing. Me and my fiancé broke up at the beginning of December, then I was trying to get him back for the last 2 months, it was probably the biggest mistake I have done. I was fighting for the lost case and did all these crazy things for him like you just described. He was leading me on, laughing behind my back and dating someone else. I honestly don't know why would guys need to be so mean as in giving false hopes..I really didn't know that men would do these kind of things to get some kind of sick pleasure. I can't move on, but I know that I have to, 'cause if I won't help myself nobody will. It's time to quit tearing ourselves apart, and time to wipe the tears. I am going on holidays in 2 weeks and this is something I'd advise you to do too. You need to stuff your head with something new, some new experience, new adventure. And he shall get what he deserves, there will be the time when he will regret about all the things he has done to you, but it will be too late for him, you will be fine just need to try harder to overcome this craziness, you know what comes around goes around! Take care,Crazy Fox
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reader, need2know4life  +, writes (18 February 2012):
I too have suffered hurt of a loving relationship and it does take time. The best thing you can do is spend time with people who love you and care to be with you as you try to heal and get back on you feet. You will never be any good to any one until you find yourself again and heal from with in. I am in the same boat of life right now. Find sometime to get you mind off of him. Reinvent yourself.
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