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writes:Hi! Well i will tell you my story, but don't get angry about my grammar, because I am not very good at english. So I hope you guys will understand me.Well I will not tell you whole story, so it would be a short but understandable. So! I first I told her what I was feeling at one party when was playing beautiful song and I was dancing with her. Well I already knew the answer, before this all but I still told her because I was feeling terrible - feelings was very strong and I just had to say it to her. Of course she was confused about my step, because she never noticed that I like her. It was of course obvious, because I was training martial arts for 10 years and my masters taught me to keep down my emotions, so i did it how in trainings so in my life. It was one of the problems why hadn't made any dating before, even in my 18 years. So if we are returning to that time in party, she sayed.. so she said that she have no time for it now, and by the way we where separated by distance, because she was in university already, but I ..well I was still in secondary school my last year. Ofcorse she said: 'maybe in summer". SO when the summer came I was ..well I was became cold and arrogant, sinked deeply in my trainings. And when the party came in summer I with my classmate sit on the chair near by her, and we just joked and laughed, then DJ said that this is the last song. And she waited for me to ask her for dance. At least I think she waited for me, because when song was almost ended she rise and slowly leaved she looked like she was surprised and hurt somehow.Now.. well, now I am in university, in the same city. I thought that I have forgotten her but one day on the way to my school I saw her on street she was going along sidewalk so ..so gentle, so beautiful and she was smiling, ..smiling so beautiful like an angel, like God would carry her on his hand. So beautiful that all I wanted was to go along with her and hold her hand in mine.But ..well I don't know if I can find courage to ask her again the same question after first question after which I failed. I don't know or she have boyfriend or not, probably not, but I haven' t spoken to her for a year.So all I wanted is to have some advises or just wise suggestions.I don't know what to do, my master (he is an wise man), said to me: "don't take it seriously, just leave it, let it go." But you know I don't want to let it go, now when I have the biggest chances, I don't want to let go an angel what I have met. I don't want to let it go my chance to hold her hand to hold her in my arms, and leave my disciplined and heartless life behind me. She already how helped me to see light in the end of the tunnel, and I expect to meet her at that light. THanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): Whenever you tell someone your feelings prematurely, it can put up a red flag in the relationship for the person on the other end. If you don't share the feelings, the other person might feel awkward and uncomfortable. She was not ready or prepared for this.
You may be reading too much into her feelings at the party. She might not have been thinking that at all. After all, you were nearby and not next to her. Whatever, you did not take the risk and ask her.
I don't think you are that "into" her since you said you almost forgot about her. Her presence reminded you of your feelings. Is it really that important to you or are you just interested in the chase?
If you are still interested in pursuing her, you need to get to know her better first. Not a call "out of the blue."
Could you IM her playfully since she seems to enjoy joking and laughing with you? If you can, see where it goes. If you don't have her IM, you can go to the college website probably and look up her email address. You could email her playfully and tell her you would enjoy IMing her.
If you get no response, she isn't interested.
Good luck. Let me know how it turns out via email.
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