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writes:Dear Cupid,A little over two months ago, my two best friends movedaway. They are now living in a town that is about anhour's drive away from mine. I know that may not seemlike a big deal, but to me, it's a HUGE deal. Even though it's only about sixty miles away, it seems like it's on the other side of the world. I miss them like crazy and still cry pretty much every day. There are two questions here. The first is, how can I make the pain go away? No matter what I do, all I can think about is how they're not here anymore and how I have no clue when the next time I will see them is ging to be. The second is, is it normal for me to feel this way? All of their other friends seemed to have bounced back already...and it's like they all expect me to do the same. How can I stop the hurt and just move on like everybody else has done?~Grieving~
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (29 August 2008):
 sweetie, my best friends are all across the country! college does that...
i go to school in davis which is about an hour north of san francisco. one best friend goes to school in long beach which is 6 hours away! another goes to school in san diego which is more like 8! one is back home which is about 2 hours away. one of my best guy friends lives in michigan, another goes to school in minnesota.
in the beginning it SUCKS. it feels like you've lost your security blanket and your social backup, not to mention your 24/7 posse. i totally get it.
but just look at it as a way to grow. you know they'll always be there for you. i don't get a chance to talk to my best friends every day just because we have such opposite schedules these days. but because we are best friends, i know whenever i get in trouble i can call lena who is 6 hours away and bawl to her on the phone. likewise, she knows that whenever she meets the boy of her dreams it only take appx 2 minutes to get a hold of me!
write letters, email, send text messages or even better! picture messages. my best friends and i do that all the time.i.e. "heres a picture of me at a party, wish you were here!" and i get one back of her on the beach going "the hottest lifeguard is behind me!"
with technology today it is really easy to keep in touch on a way more personal basis. have you heard of skype? buy yourself a webcam and call them over the internet and talk!
in the meantime, go out there and take advantage of the newfound freedom! you now have more time to spend with more people.
who knows, you might just make more best friends!
that's how i was when i got to davis. i missed my high school friends but i made a whole new circle of college ones.
good luck!
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