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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey,I was really attracted to a celebrity(about 5 years ago). I would watch all his movies,I thought he was really good looking. He was pretty active on a social networking sight we started talking,then we exchanged emails,spoke on msn messenger. he asked for my number I didnt give it initially I told him let's know each other better first. then I gave it to him ,we started texting and then calling. we would talk to each other all day long,and when I say all day long I mean all day long! If I wouldn't wish him good luck before the award shows he would text me saying "wish me" I need you to!when we met,I realised we didnt have much to say! surprising? but that's exactly what happened. We spoke so much but when we met we had nothing to say much. I wanted him to talk,but he had pretty hard core make out sessions. we did not have sex,only made out so when he went back he called me. we spoke, but then I don't know what happened we cut off actually he cut off from me!then he called me out of the blue asking how I'm doing then again he disappeared. I wished him on his birthday all I got back was'thank you' nothing else, not even asking me how I was. eventually I changed my number and I ddint give him obviously cuz he didnt even care about me. but now I look back(he was my first kiss)I want closure. I want us to talk and discuss what happened but I feel he wouldn't be interested,its been over 4 years since I spoke to him..what do I do?should I contact him?or let him go?I think I still like him no matter what he did!and also as superficial as this is going to sound,for him looks very really important,I wasn't as pretty then cuz I was still young,but now don't mean to be conceited but I get told a lot how I am and blah blah I know if I contact him now he would talk to me but not becuz he missed me but becuz of how I have become now!what do I do:(?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (16 February 2013):
 Hi
You have contact with some time ago and no doubt since then his life has moved on at some pace.
I am sorry you have suffered some grief at losing contact. We can grieve many things, not just grieve due to a death, but instead grieve over anything.
And although there are defined stages of grief, no one can say how long is too long to grieve.
I recall a person who claimed I should have only remained in grief from the death of my first husband for 2 months, not two years. I ignored his ignorant remarks.
However I do support that some counselling can help one come to terms with the loss of something, be it the loss of a job, person or even lifestyle.
I wish you the best in the future. You could try contacting him.
But I think embracing a new life direction that you choose might be more fulfilling
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPassive-agressive,defensive??ummm yes I would because we are talking about my life here,when someone comes in and says I don't think some of it happened,its a fantasy u will be defensive,I don't blame SVC she doesn't know me,so its olright for her to think may be its just another made up post!well svc no hard feelings,you have ur opinion I have mine..!have a good life,I won't be responding further cuz it definitely doesn't beneifit me I'm here for advice and not to pin point what is true in my post and what's not!take care all
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@so very confused.. he did everything that I mentioned,even more!he would want to buy me flight tickets to where he was shooting,so we could spend more time,never did I accept it cuz I felt I don't want him to take me on trips with his money..and u say crazy teen haha..whatever floats ur boat,I'm not here to explain about what he did or did not,I was here for some advise! The reason being he was my first kiss and it was hard for me to forget,so please don't be soo judgemental..I was young and whatever happened broke my heart,had it happened now I would be more strong,cuz I'm mature woman,then I was a girl so it left a scar and that's it.. To the rest thank you for all the advise starting tomorrow I'l try putting an end to this and move on in life!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat happened to me seems implausible to you@so very confused!its sad that you want to make a joke out of this..
I wouldn't say I'm going crazy over him,but I see himn often soo much I feel I deserve to know what happened!a guy who used to talk to me for over 12 hours with just half hour breaks in between now wants nothing to do with me,I'm stunned..
And to the others thank you,may be 4 years is wayy too long I would have to let go!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 February 2013):
 I would chalk it up to experience and move on.
I also strongly suggest counseling to work through the issues of holding on to a pipe dream if the post is true and if it's not true (and it's a fantasy you have) i suggest counseling even more strongly to work on your grasp of reality.
I just find some of the details implausible.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 February 2013):
4 years is too long and the "relationship" too minor to ask him why he stopped talking to you. It wasn't him that you were interested in, it was his fame.
It would be one thing if you were married or in a long term relationship. But you briefly dated.
What would you expect him to say anyways? He won't be honest with you. Nobody ever is when asked "What happened?" when dating someone. What's he going to say?
I wasn't attracted to you.
I was dating someone else.
I only wanted sex.
Etc.
The thing to do here is get over it. If that means you need counseling then so be it.
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