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writes: my ex and i have been talking on and off for a year..i recently asked if he wanted to talk more often and he said ok and that he had no problem with that and i mentioned about meeting soon and he said ok to that as well. I even joked saying are you going to disappear now? and he said no and i said he can think about this if he wants and he said i am funny almost saying like i am being silly for asking this stuff.It took him about 10 days to call after that..and then i called the next time about 8 days later..and then i decided to call a few days later with the intention of asking about meeting within 2 weeks or so..i figured why not since our conversations were going well. He has ALOT of pride and kind of stubborn so i think it would be on me to ask. He seemed closed off this year as well; i think he didn't want to go through a bad break up again but now seems a little different. Maybe time was just needed to even get our heads in that direction.So i called early in the evening two thursdays ago. He had to call back because he was driving. He called back about an hour or more later which is fine and we spoke. The conversation seemed to be going really well. Dvd's were mentioned and he said i could borrow them. I am in my 20's and never got to learn to drive a car yet but have my permit---he was joking how he would teach me but would charge..and then even joked how the apartment could use a cleaning. And i mentioned it is getting cold out and he said i could wear this funny hat of his..and i knew the one he was referring to so i just said ok i will wear it. It seemed like hints and stuff he would not say unless he meant it in some way..he would just avoid saying this altogether from knowing him.I was going to ask when getting off the phone but then suddenly he said he has a call coming through and would call back..no call back..and its been 15 days.I don't think it was an emergency with that call. I just don't know what to think. ONE THING is when i first asked about talking more and meeting and he agreed..he called 10 days later..so maybe this is the same thing but just taking a little longer?I really don't know what to do; i am very tempted to just text him or something because I can't take this and just want to know something one way or the other. I can't just wipe my hands clean and forget it like others on here will probably say..so any other thoughts?Maybe i am panicking too much i don't know and i am just wondering what to think. I know once we are in person; feelings might develop again. It won't happen on the phone.I was ready to break down tonight and text him but wrote on here first.Does anyone have any thoughts? I am going through a hard time. Thank you.
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reader, corbandallas  +, writes (16 October 2010):
I agree with one of the other comments. Send one text, if he replies you can continue on as you have been if you want. If he doesn't move on.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 If you arnt going to go along with people who tell you to move on and forget him, the only alternatives are to either do nothing and drive yourself slowly mental, or call him and keep calling until he gives you what you want.
There really are no other answers!
Best of luck xx
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