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writes:About a month ago I was set up with my friends brother. He,s funny, cute and really romantic. we,ve been meeting up every other day and when i,m with him i feel amazing. You see i never had a proper relationship before and even though we,re not exactly boyfriend and girlfriend I love the way things are going right now.However one of my other friends told me that the sister told her that He was only with me to get into my trousers. Then she told me the sister also told her that she had a few words with her brother saying not to use me because and quote " She's a lovely girl who doesn't deserve that from you. " Apparently the brother agreed to this and said He wouldn't use me. I,m becoming more and more paranoid because the first night we went out he did try something and I pushed away gently and so far he hasn't tried anything else except for kissing. I don't know what to do. When I,m with him i feel amazing and beautiful but i don't want my heartbroken either. I,m greatful for any answers
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2011): Demand a BF/GF commitment before you will sleep with him. Problem solved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for all your answers. They were really helpful :) xxx
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reader, macy.lou  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 There's only one way to know if he's using you! Just don't let him do anything with you for a while, if he stays then he wants more from the relaionship! If he leaves then well he was never worth it! Good luck I really hope you don't get your heart broken! It sounds like you're really happy and I hope you stay that way!
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (12 August 2011):
 Let him know how you feel. Tell him that you're interested in him and would love to pursue something more, but you want to know where he stands. Tell him that you're looking for something more than just sex, but if that's all that he's looking for from you, then it would be better if you just end things now.
Be honest with him- and encourage him to be honest as well. Communicate! :^)
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 People will often try to interfere where relationships are concerned. It's really immature, I've had it done to me and it really screwed up my chances with someone I was infatuated with. So what I would say is, unless this information has been passed onto you through a long-term, close and trustworthy friend - then take it with a pinch of salt! If it does turn out that he doesn't respect you and is only in it for 'one thing' - then time will tell. It's only early days yet, so carry on as you are and soon enough your instincts will tell you whether he's genuine or not. Don't listen to other people, just listen to yourself :) But since you're a cautious person, I would definitely advise to take things slow and don't feel pressured into anything you're not ready for! All the best x
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (12 August 2011):
 Heartbreak is unavoidable sometimes, not saying this will happen with you and this guy. I wouldn't worry about this. He tried something once with you and now he knows the boundaries and hasn't tried anything since. He must not be interested in sex with you right now if he's still seeing you, whether you're together or not. Just let this one go and if you're still uncomfortable with this after a few days, then talk to him, tell him how you feel, and ask him if he has a genuine interest in you. That way, you'll get the truth, and your mind will be at ease hopefully. Remember that even if he is that kind of guy, you control the pace of the relationship and what goes on in it, so keep your boundaries until you feel you're ready for something more.
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