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male
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36-40,
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writes:Dear Cupid. A have a serious premature ejaculation problem. I think it is caused by my bad masturbation habits when I was younger. I wanted to reach an orgasm as fast as I could and I think that this has caused my problems. I need advice how to treat those problems. I have heard somewhere that it can be cured relatively fast. It's all starting to affect my relationship with my girlfriend. Please help!
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 Hi there speedy!! lol... sorry!! Well there are a couple of things you can do...
1. Whenever you believe you are getting close to the orgasm you can: think of something else besides pleasure, try to go slower, change positions, give her oral until you go back to "normal".
2. There are also "endurance enhancer" condoms, lubs and pills. So visit your local adult store and have so fun.
Also, try to get her to have the first orgasm. This way, even if you finish really fast, she won't mind that much!
Good luck!
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reader, IntoxicatingLastBreath  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 Ohh..so i'm gathering you've had sex with your girlfriend then?
How long do you last before you ejaculate?
And also if i were you it'd be best to seek medical advise, they can help more as they can prescribe you things, so go and see a doctor if methods that people tell you on here don't work, either that or a sex advice clinic..you don't have to go alone, take your girlfriend with you or a close friend for support, and don't worry, many people have the same thing as you and it's completely normal, it just needs seeing to.
While your having sex or masterbating, try doing it slowly and carefully, and when you think your about to cum, ease down and stop for a while, but make sure your girlfriend is still getting pleasure by doing things to / with her..like kissing her all over and rubbing etc..once you think you could go again without cumming then do so, and repeat this until you think you've waited a decent time for you to cum now.
It will satisfy your girlfriends needs more and you may feel more confident and better in yourself with the result..also try not masterbating for a while.
Put things off longer than you would usually and tell your girlfriend your just testing things out so she knows your not neglecting her or anything, she will appriciate that your trying to get the problem sorted..just remember, be patient, as things always take time.
On the other hand you may just be getting used to sex and get too excited at time, if you haven't been having sex for that long you may just need time to get used to things, may i ask how long have you been having sex? Because this is the case with many men, they cum quicker when they're 'less expierienced' and then they panic.
Feel free to contact me and i hope things go well
~Krissy [x]
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