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writes:Hi guys, I’m a bit rusty on the dating scene, as I've not had a proper girlfriend for such a long time now, just over 5 years now! I’m 29, and have recently been on one date with this girl who is quite a bit younger than me, only 21. She replied to my dating ad in a newspaper and I really like her and want everything to go right. I’ve been doing online dating and paper ads for a few years now and have had many dates, but not had much luck as they have just not worked out, so I’m not used to going any further than the 2nd date. However, despite the age gap, I’m really excited about this girl, so really want to get it right. Any advice? With most of my dates I’ve done the ‘gone for a drink’ thing and then a meal, but then I get a bit stumped into what to do next to keep things interesting. I know that she’s really into films so we’re going to the cinema next. But cinema dates in the past have been disappointing when you’ve just met someone as you don’t really get the chance to chat much and I want to keep the momentum going if you know what I mean? What makes it worse is that both of us still live with our parents so even quiet nights in are difficult. Apologies for going on a bit here, but it would be great if anyone could give me advice on possible dates to keep things interactive and interesting? Also I don’t want to come across too keen or in her face so how frequent, should I arrange dates with her, and when should I start asking her out more often? Thanks ;-) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): ice skating is good - you get to hold hands, ditto with rollerskating, picnics in the summer, wine tasting (obviously depends where you are from), some kind of craft activity is fun (like one of those make your own pottery things), funfairs, the theatre, tennis, planeterium, botanical gardens, playground (sounds silly but is fun), go karting, hiking, watch the stars(take a constellation map with you and try and find as many as you can)board games (with wine and a fire preferably!! or in the park) a dance class. as for when to call and how often etc my best advice is not to play games, call when you want to, arrange dates when you want to see her.
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reader, Jonty +, writes (15 July 2007):
 I have had two long lasting relationships with girls that age, so hopefully I may be able to help.
Firstly to ensure you are not in the girl's face from the off, I would recommend you see her once a week. This will give excitement through the week for both of you before the date has even begun.
As far as dates go, the cinema is a great idea, and you can always go for a drink afterwards to talk, and the actual film gives you a talking point, to which helps you see what sort of views she has, whether you think the same as her and have the same morals.
Other things like ten-pin bowling, arcades, theme parks, pool hall, clubbing would all probably be an enjoyable night as girls that age just want to have fun.
After a while you will obviously have to repeat things, but by this time you will have got to know each other a bit and know what nights work best.
Both living with your parents is a common problem, what with the house prices nowadays! Once you hav got to know each other and if things work out you can decide to save together to get a place, but at the moment just have fun and see how it goes.
Good Luck and enjoy it!
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