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writes: hi i need some advice pls. i was with my ex for nearly 3 years and we split up about 4 months ago. when we were together we had our ups and downs split up but always got back together. latley hes been in contact sayin our sex was amazing and we agreed to do the whole sex and no strings and no commitment thing but ive become a bit attached it feels like old times. ive tried talking to him but he says we cant be together it doesnt work anymore. i really want us to give it another go but he wont. hes even started sayin maybe we shouldnt see each other anymore. i dont wanna lose him from my life what do i do ? pls help me im so upset and messed up
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2006): thanks for your advice, its easier said than done though. hes said maybe we shouldnt see each other anymore coz the no strings thing was affecting me but i wanna try and prove its not i really dont wanna loose him all together pathetic i know. even if we do stop seeing each other, when he changes his mind and wants to get laid which he allways does i go running back hoping to win him back but then i end up hurt. i know what your both saying makes sense but i cant bring myself to let go i really cant
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2006): I hate to say this, but you have ALREADY lost him.
I know you don't want to hear that, but think about it: you were together three years and there were issues and problems that caused you to split up. Apparently even though you got back together during those troubled times, the problems never actually got resolved, so you both decided to do the friends-with-benefits scene.
You want more, and you have talked with him about it, but he is telling you it isn't going to happen, it won't work any longer. You see, he is recognizing that those old problems are still there, still unresolved. His insight is good, because he knows it would be same-old, same-old.
If he is saying you should not see each other any more, there is nothing you can do. Given the situation, this is the only "out."
I am sorry, because you are hurting. All you can do is to accept what has happened, and, after a time, start to move on with your life. Perhaps think twice about "friends with benefits" in the future!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2006): im sorry but i think, you got over him before, i think you can do it again. sometimes its hard to split the difference in feelings of sex and love. you have to face the truth that he doesnt want to be with you. even if you did manage to get back with him, he wont b as committed as he once was. i think you shouldnt continue this sex with no strings relationship at all. if you dont want to loose him from your life, try simply being friends. maybe after a while you might reconnect, but at this moment, its not a wise decision.
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