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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months now, my best friend and his best friend are dating, and they hooked us up because they thought we were a lot alike. He was great to me in th beginning and even drew me a yellow rose because he knows its my favorite color. We are together all the time and I love his family their the best! But he has come to my house once, he says he doesnt do family things. He's made me cry many times in the past 3 months when I think he is gonna break up with me. And well he's at it again, he's told me he doesnt think we will make it and he also said last night he doesnt know what he wants. People tell me just to break up with him, but I care about him so much, that would be just to painful. It's always gotten better before so I'm hoping it will now. This is the most painful thing I've ever gone through. I'm not ready to let go. Ive been crying for the past 4 days. Please someone help me...
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reader, misskat  +, writes (12 July 2011):
I agree with the other post that you should be happy he didn't lead you on for longer than he already did. It seems he left you fragile so my advice is to do things that make you happy. A man can't be your source of happiness because even Prince Charming will eventually disappoint you. I'm having a hard time tellingmyself the same thing because some guy lead me on but its all about accepting what's in front of you. You can accept his honesty even though its painful, and move on OR keep crying over him and wasting time getting him to stay with you. once you find yourself, you will attract the right guy for you. Good luck!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 July 2011):
 It hurts, but this is the end Im afraid. If he doesn't know what he wants he doesn't deserve you! Remember that, you deserve BETTER. Ok? You might not think you do, but you do. You deserve someone who doesn't make you scared they will leave you, and who knows in his heart that all he wants is you.
No matter how much you care for him, if he can not, or is not willing, to give you this, then he isn't good enough for you. Even if you are good for him, and even if you give him all of your heart... Because he hasn't given you all of his heart. And when you love and care for someone deeply you deserve to have that same love and care given to you in return.
It hurts that he doesn't do this. But no matter how much you cry, he wont do it. It hurts that he couldn't be everything you hoped for, but in the long run you couldn't ever be happy with him when he treats you like this. You know that. You know you deserve better.
Keep your chin up, and keep hoping a better man will come along. Give up on this one. Maybe, in a few years, he might have matured and know what he wants. Until then, move on with your life. It's been 3 months, be grateful he didn't lead you on for longer, but was honest with you in the early stages. It would have hurt a lot more if he told you this a year from now.
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