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writes:Thanks in advance for reading - I know this is long. Let me tell you what's going on first, then give you more information.There's this guy friend of mine who I've kind of been seeing lately - it's nothing official, but there's definitely something there. That's the thing, though - I don't know what that "something" is or whether it'll ever get pursued, which is a shame, because now it's all I can think about.He started talking to me/showing interest in me about three weeks ago - I'd had a good conversation with him in a film lab the day prior, so I added him on Facebook, and the next class period he comes in and is all "Hey, I Facebook-creeped you last night and you are SO AWESOME, can we be super awesome best friends?" The next day, I see him at a research colloquium and we hang out there together and exchange numbers, and the day after, he invites me to hang out with him. We drink a little and talk for an entire night, gradually getting more and more affectionate, until we're making out. Drunken mistake, right? Not really - the next morning, totally sober, still affectionate.Over the next week, I see him around here and there, and he keeps inviting me out to parties (I really can't, sorry, I have class at 9am tomorrow) and insisting I meet and hang out with all his friends (pretty awesome people, from what little I can tell as of yet). Come Wednesday, I get a drunk dial from him, which contains the (cute?) line "I don't know what your priorities are this week, I don't know if it's me, but whatever they are, you should embrace them. Or embrace me. Whatever." Sigh. He wants me over there, and I really have nothing against it, so I go. I was a little worried he was after sex, so I asked him about it. Turns out, we were on the same page, so it was all good.This past weekend, he and I meet up at a concert downtown, where I meet his best (female) friend. He keeps a hand on me the whole time, and introduces me to yet more people. Later that night, he, his friend, and I were talking, and she expressed her approval of "this" (referring to he and I), told me that he liked me (which I had figured), and said she told him not to let me go. He told me that he was really nervous I and his friend wouldn't get along, because he really wanted her approval - apparently they're one another's wingmen or something like that and screen one another's potential dates. The next morning, he takes me out to breakfast, and I get a kiss goodbye.Then, a few days ago, he invites me over to study and watch anime with him, but that means, of course, I'm going to stay overnight again. Nothing sexual has happened, nor have either of us pushed for anything to happen.It's so weird - every time I see him, it seems so obvious that he really does like me and care about me, but in the interim, I start wondering if I'm just a warm body to cuddle with. I don't know, really - I'd love to know where this is going, because I really do like the guy, but I don't want to make things awkward or bug him about it.Ah well. Any thoughts?
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reader, singlemom24 +, writes (30 April 2010):
From the sound of it it seems to be going good, hes setting a good foundation for a relationship. hes just getting to know you and your getting to know him. I think it a good sign that hes introducing you to all his friends. Now id be worried if all he wanted was sex all the time but you clearly stated thats not the case. So it sounds like a good beging to a relationship.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 relax. You've met him just 3 weeks ago !
If you mean you'd like things getting more intimate between you ,all you've got to do is letting him know- non verbally. By your kisses caresses etc.
If you mean that you don't know if he wants to have a serious relationship with you,- he does not know himself yet. It's only 3 weeks. Probably he wants to see if you two are really compatible and he is doing the "friend first " thing.
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