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writes:Hi, i have just split from my boyfriend of five years, we have a lil boy who's three this year, we split just after my sons second bday an he got with some one else but text me everyday, he insisted that he had no feelings for me. he started having our son twice a week wich took time and pain for me to get used to. As time whent on an texting daily, he decided he wanted to start taking me and my son out insted of having him on his own. We got realy close again and he ended it with his girlfriend (who he had left me for in the begining). He said he had made a mistake an that hes realised how much hes missed me and loves me. So we got back to gether, it was perfect. We got back together just before our aniversary which is 2 weeks before xmas, everything was great till six weeks ago, when sudenly he didnt whant to be around me again, for about three weeks, he was pulling away, then i said to him, you dont want to be with me do you and he replied with i just want to be best friends. I broke my heart to his mother who he had only been speaking to for three weeks, so she was baffled, hes with another girl now and ive heard its been roughly six weeks wich makes it three weeks before we split. Ive heard so much about them and worked out a lot of the weird things he was doing and just cant beleve it because it just doesnt seem like him. To top it off me and his brother have got extremly close, to the point wher its making me nervous. I think im falling for him, wich scares me. I feel like hes trying to give signals but not sure how, he always wants to be around me, we are hardly apart, hes better with my son than my ex wich just blows my mind. He seems to want to look after me, cuddles me helps me with choir and my son, things like putting him to bed, going to the shops, taking him to the park. Right now i realy dont know where i am and whats going on, hes younger than me. His mum has a younger boyfriend wich makes me wonder if hes thinking that older girlfriends are better. Am i just latching on because im lonely an thinking hers more to it than ther is? Xxxx
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 May 2012):
 Your ex sounds like he is extremely confused and does not know what he wants, which off course has left you heart broken twice which is not very nice. It is sad that he found someone so quick, he really is not to be trusted. I think you are better off without him in this case. As hard as it is for you at least you still have his family around to help you.
As for his brother, it is nice that he is there to look after and comfort you. But please do not let your feelings get in the way. I think you need to distance yourself from his brother for a while. Even though am sure he is a lovely guy, he is your sons uncle and this would cause so much trouble in your life. Trouble that you do not need. It would cause there family to fall apart and maybe even all of them falling away from you. I really don't think it is wise to cross that line and coming in between a family.
Am not telling you to stay away from his brother, but don't have as much contact with him, and don't meet up on your own with him, because it sounds like you are both two close for comfort at the moment as it is, don't stop him seeing your son but put some distance between the both of you, it really is the best thing to do.
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