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writes:I was introduced to a bunch a guy friends by my guy friend. We went on night clubbing. I was introduced in the new group. One guy opted to drop me home. we began chatting ... he was willing to pick me up from home whenever I wanted to go partying and also without any hesitation longed to drop me home. he would always be near me... talk and sit or dance the whole night with me in the party. What shocked me was within a week he said that he wants me to be his girlfriend. and all the friends in the group also know about it. I am confused, we just started out... he is even willing to take me for shopping. he is guiding me about what to wear that suits my body...i went over to his home today, we were talking fine. we began drinking... finally i see him touching me and we ended up doing oral. i told him its not right cause we hardly know each other. he begans saying your such a hot girl. I cant control myself... i have begun having feelings for you. later he says I wont force u for sex. take your time. its kills me that I get guys even as friends but they end up wanting sex from me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2013): Sound like you make friends with guys easily and they think you just easy to get into bed with. You says that that all the guys want from you is sex? Did you sleep with any guy in that group and he might have mentioned it to the other friends and they all hoping to get you into the bed?
I am just asking as you say that all guys just want to sleep with you.
You need to be very careful as there are guys that will sleep with a girl but thats all it is and do not consider GF or wife material.
I recommend that you dont get over friendly and too comfortable with guys you just meet also you might want to change your circle of friends.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (14 May 2013):
 Letting a man into your home, letting him pick you up and take you partying, letting him touch you and spend all this time with you alone and letting him “guide you about what to wear” etc all in about a week is way too much too soon. Being alone in a home and drinking with a man is a sure fire way to get into trouble.
You seem a bit naïve about how the world works OP. Men will do and say anything to get into your knickers.
He won’t force you to have sex, but he will pressure you. If you want to be just friends
a. Do not ride in cars with then alone
b. Do not drink with them
c. Do not go to their homes or have them to your home
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reader, valeria-girl  +, writes (14 May 2013):
Hi. Excuse me but u didn't treat him as a friend, you shouldn't go to his home and shouldn't drink with a guy u barely know specialy if ur alone together. You shouldn't be so easy to get. Set boundaries and have principle :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2013): What did you think is going to happen when you go clubbing? You know there are certain places that nothing much else is going to happen. Are you strong enough to tell him to piss off and send a clear message to him and his friends that you wont bend over or give blowjobs? What the hell here? Not even Joan of Arch took any bullshit from men. If you have a weak constitution then don't go or hang out with these a holes who only want a free piece of ass once you are stoned or drunk. Or are you that out of it to see the forest from the trees? There is nothing wrong with telling these men or individual man you are not giving any free samples away. If they cant buy that answer then don't have anything to do with these a holes. You want change? Institute such and change the game. There is nothing wrong with being feminine but there comes a time when you don't open your mouth or legs. If you don't demand more you wont get more from a man.
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