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writes:Can someone help me with my trust issues? Or just .. At all?My boyfriend and i have been together for over a year. His ex-girlfriend has been adamant about staying friends but earlier in our relationship, he told me he wanted nothing to do with her, she wasn't a true friend, and he would eventually and slowly stop talking to her.It's been a year. It's gotten worse. She's never been out of the picture. Always calling late at night, texting constantly, and it leads me to think she still likes him. And to make it worse, my boyfriend is now telling me she's almost like a best friend. I found out that he calls her late at night, that he texts me goodnight but still talks to her on the phone for hours after. This doesn't help me feel better. Now i'm paranoid and i think that if i'm texting him, he's talking to her on the phone, or if i'm on the phone with him, he's texting her at the same time.All this feeds into my insecurity and i just feel as if he's starting to fall for her again. What do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni`ve talked to him about it before but i just feel as if nothing`s going to happen to make it better. if he said that he`d eventually stop talking to her and after a year, now he`s almost on the verge of considering her a best friend .. what can i really say, you know? sure, men aren`t mind readers and i know damn well he wouldn`t cheat on me but i don`t understand why what he promised me wouldn`t happen is happening. i`m in a difficult position. i don`t want to assume anything but this is how it`s all coming off to me. if i end this with him and things actually weren`t how i thought, how horrible would i feel? but if i stay and this is actually what i think it might be .. i don`t know. sometimes it can be difficult to talk to him as well because he just brushes it off like it`s nothing. there are days where i actually do brush it off and just think whatever about it, but sometimes i`ll see that she constantly talks to him and he`ll even make the effort to call late at night. at first, i didn`t mind them being friends .. but now, it`s starting to threaten my relationship and it`s getting hard to give my trust. but what if it is just nothing? =/
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reader, angel sweeney +, writes (29 August 2009):
 girl when hes sleeping you need to go through his phone and see what hes texting her about abd you need to call her when hes gone and ask her if theyre sleeping togather or anything...and ask her if she wants to be with him...but if she says yea too any of it you need to tell her straight up that hes ur man and no ones gonna come between us......and if she gets on u and starts yelling and sayin anything like well i wanna be with im just take her down hard....
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