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writes:I have been with my bf for 15 months. Lately it seems like he is so comfortable with our relationship that sometimes it seems like he does not even care about me or what is going on in my life. I always want to know whats up with him or how everything is going but it just seems like it is not the same for him. He never wants to go places anymore. Whenever I try to talk to him about it, he says that I am "b*tching" but I'm really just trying to tell him how I feel. The scary part is, that ever since this started happening I've begun to take interest in other guys.(and it is VERY inconvenient that it seems like a million guys are hitting on me at this time.lol). I know he loves me and I love him. But I really don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, hunbun +, writes (30 August 2007):
Well darling, you are young. If the relationship is not fun anymore and if it feels that the feelings are fading you will only hurt both of you by trapping yourselfs to eachother. Take a break and some time to meet new people and see if being apart from eachother is for the best. Maybe when you are gone your boyfriend will realize what he had was truly amazing and how he had been taking advantage of you and not appreciating your relationship enough. If you love someone let them go and if they come back they are yours and if they dont they never were. What i am saying is that take a break and see what is best for both of you. If you 2 are meant to be together you will be.
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reader, fallenangel  +, writes (30 August 2007):
hello,in a relationship, you must be able to communicate with your partner, it is always good to have a heart-to-heart talk and to sort things out. if he says you are "b*tching" like what you said, then you got to be patient and know how to bring up the subject, let him know how it is affecting the relationship.if you say you've begun to take interest in other guys, then you should really re-consider whether you really love him or not. a good relationship is able to withstand such temptations, even if there are plenty of guys hitting on you. take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): Men have a 1-track mind. They only focus on one thing at a time. They like for things to seem in order or normal. They don't deal with drama, or conflict easily. As long as things are fine in a relationship with them, it is fine, in their oppinion. They are oblivious to our needs a lot of times. Generally speaking, men don't like to talk about the relationship. Women need someone to talk to, confide in, share their emotions with, go out with. Men can just sit at home and watch TV with their woman, and be content. We need more than that. We need attention, renewal, and romance. There are very FEW men like this. Sad to say, the ones that are can be too smothering. Just make plans to do something, and include him. If he doesn't want to go out to eat, shop, or to the movies, for instance, go by yourself. It will probably only take once for him to see you are serious, and he will go with you the next time. As for the other guys, just remember, "The Grass ALWAYS Looks Greener On The Other Side Of The Fence, but It Tastes The Same."
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reader, LilMaMaA.k.ADeDe +, writes (30 August 2007):
 ok when i guy pays u no attention that means he maybe cheatin on you or dont love you anymore , ive had that happen to me once and how long have u two been together ??
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