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anonymous
writes:hi.so.i had a problem,the guy i love (we arent going out yet but i think he is in love with me too,we are close friends).well..i had texted and called him a lot of times from the past 2 days without getting a reply.i got really scared and assumed that either he is too busy to reply or there is a network problem.so i finally sent him a msg on facebook.he msgs me back today morning to say that he had lost his cell phone at a shop.and i didnt have to ask him such questions like whether he had been too busy to reply to me.he seemed indignant in the message.that means he cares right??and the story seems v likely cuz he is the sort of guy who has lost his things in the past..cell phone once before..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni am sorry but i think there have been some misunderstandings.i guess the term "Called him a lot of times has been misunderstood a bit..since i dont call him often..calling him twice seems extreme to me..in 2 days.i have never contacted him,its usually been him.what a mess.my apologies
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Hi thereI think anonymous was just trying to state the obvious love, maybe she was a bit to blunt for you liking but that is exactly what could have happened, men don’t like to feel like they have a second mother who wants to know everything about them and wipe their asses, men get attracted to the girls they cant have girls who they need to “hunt” ( meaning that girl should not just give in at the 1st sign of interest) just like male animals, and you deary are the hunted, you need to make that hunt worth while to him otherwise he will just come over play with you a little while and let you go coz all the fun is over the chase has ended, if you text him and then message him because you care, than leave a message to which he could reply if he wanted to and if he doesn’t …. Keep playing the game…. Coz soon enough he wont feel like you are hunting him but more like he is back in the game, to take that away from a guy is probably like cutting one of his balls of, they need to be the hunters, that is their role so taking yourself and putting it on a platter right in front of the lions den wont excite him much, but knowing that he cant, will get him texting you like a wild fire, so play it even cooler than what you are doing right now, and you’ll be fine, good luck angel I hope it all works out as planned
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionum miss anonymous..if u read my question carefully-it says i am his close FRIEND.i have every right to msg and call him.and i never thought calling or texting a friend is considered to be "hounding like a possessive girlfriend".i request u to plz read the question carefully before answering
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthx for answering u guys!
i thought something had happened to him,and there was noone i could have contacted..thats why i got scared and despertely callled him..silly of me,i guess.
and i dont really call him much..its once a week,only.
and he texts more usually.
i do play it cool..lol,but as i said i was scared
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): if he sounded indignant, its cos he was indignant, and rightly so.....youre not dating him, you dont even know for sure what his feelings are, but youre hounding him like a possessive girlfriend. you cant freak out at the notion of him being too busy to talk, cos so what if he is? getting 'scared' at his failure to reply is a bit dramatic.....if you keep up that kind of attitude and behaviour hes gonna get very sick of it, very quickly. hes not your boyfriend and he isnt obligated to check in with you anytime you want him to. give the guy a break, especially if youve no reason to think the lost phone story is a lie.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (2 February 2009):
 I think you should trust him, and maybe cool your communication down a little anyway. I'm not suggesting you should suddenly play it distant, but maybe keep it to a couple of texts and one phone call - one missed call is all he needs to know you tried to call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Trust until he gives you reason not to trust!
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