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writes:There is this guy at my local gym who I have seen for months now and I am very attracted to him and I think he feels the same way. His 24 and I'm 21 (to put things into perspective), he has had his friends 'stake' me out from afar, watching what I do when his in the room. For instance; he always asks them if I'm looking his way or not. On other occasions his friends have tried to encourage him to speak to me, however I don't know his answer to that because I couldn't hear, but obviously it was a no way. He did walk my way once but got flustered and turned away and pretended he got lost (lol)I have spoken to him once but it was a question about whether or not he was using a piece of equipment. Whenever he sees me he 'freezes up' and gets nervous. It's strange though; he is the kind of guy that can talk to any girl, and all the girls like him but he can't simply say hi to me in passing? He looks away from me when we walk past and makes me think his either a) playing it cool or b) not interested.A friend had suggested perhaps his so use to all the girls approaching him he has no experience in approaching girls at all! What do you guys think? I want to talk to him but he makes it hard as he can never be around me alone without his friends :/Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2018): Sorry sweetie, these immature boys are playing little boy games at your expense.
They are probably telling him how in love with him you are. Telling him you want him etc. Making his meat head even bigger.
Want his attention from now on? Ignore him. Ignore his friends. Then watch him crawl...
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (23 July 2018):
 I would honestly move along.
So what if he is cute? He isn't going to start talking to you, it isn't going to go anywhere. Even if YOU approached him would you want EVERY date to be "chaperoned" by one of his friend so there is someone to talk for him?
Just focus on working out. If I were you I'd stop paying attention to him and his friends. IF that doesn't get him off his ass... nothing will. And you will keep wasting your time on a dude who can't even TALK to you.
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reader, N91  +, writes (23 July 2018):
 How do you know he has asked his friends to ‘stake’ you out? How can you tell if he’s asked his friends if you’re looking? Is he that close you can hear what he’s saying? If so then I’d say it’s a little childish on his end. You’re a human being just like everyone else on this planet, so he must have some crippling shyness if he can’t just approach you.
His friends bring him over and tell him to speak to you and he doesn’t? Or are you just guessing this is what they’re doing because they’re far away? Can you actually hear them saying this?
If he won’t speak to you then the only way for things to develop anywhere is if you approach him. I wouldn’t get my hopes up though on someone who can’t even strike up a conversation if he’s interested. If you think he likes you and you like him and he’s having his friends try to get him to speak to you over the space of a few months and he never has done, do you really see this advancing anywhere?
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