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writes:There is a girl that I could swear I am in love with. We talk so much and we both trust each other a lot. Recently she has been telling me about some guy who she is obsessed with. He is some 6 foot 4 "super hot" soccer player. I could not possibly hold a candle to that guy. It kills me the way she talks about him and the way she ends up making me feel. Normally I'm on cloud nine when I am with her, but now I feel like she doesn't think of me as she used to. I'm coming to terms with the fact I could never get her to feel the same way, but I don't want to hear about prince charming. How can I tell her I can't stand hearing about him? Should I tell her how I feel about her? What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2014): There are several ways to go about this, but don't put yourself down with the whole negative approach, "I could not possibly hold a candle to that guy". You don't have to be tall and a athlete to get a girl's attention.So, firstly, you could take the classic approach of being negative and a bit annoying when she brings him up. By this I mean, she mentions this guy and you immediately groan and say "ugh, he's all you ever talk about" etc, eventually she'll stop telling you about him because she doesn't want to hear the negativity.Conversely, you could do the complete opposite and encourage her to go for this guy, it might sound like the complete opposite to what you want to do, but she'll either go over and talk to him and eventually shut up or she'll stop bringing him up because she doesn't like the idea of appearing like a 'whimp' not going over.Or, of course, you could be straight out with it and say "can we talk about something else because I don't really care about this guy and I feel like I know more about him than anyone else".
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