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writes:I have a question to all the guys who have been in a relationship for at least a year. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 1/2. He's 33, I am 28. We do not live together yet but are working on it. Every weekend Friday to Monday morning we spend time. I tell him during the week that he should not masterbate at least on Thursday so that way on Friday he will be really worked up when he sees me. However he said there is no way he could do that. Apparently a guy thing. And on and off this happens, during the weekend he seems to not want to do anything sexual. He wants to be lovey dovey, cuddling and what not. Not that I mind that because I love him more than anything in this world, it feels good to hold him and him hold me. But I just find it so strange, bothersome that he can hold out for two days without doing anything with me but not during the week. He knows I have a high sex drive, he accommodates me every once in a while with sex twice in one day. I even wear things that he has a fetish for and still nothing, he'll rub me and touch me where the piece of clothing is but it will go no where sexually. Is he jerking off along the lines when I'm sitting there wishing he would do stuff with me or when I ask him and he says he's not in the mood? I just don't understand. I know we are both stressed because we really want to live together, but we only get to see eachother 3 days a week. I just don't know what to do.We are close enough where he's showed me what he jerks off to during the week and he's jerked off with my help several times looking at the pictures he has. I need some guy advice from a guy who's been in a relationship for at least a year. I want and am willing to do anything at all that turns him on. Please help, as soon as you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2013): I don't understand how he can be horny all week and need to wack off but then not have the desire to satisfy you. He sounds a bit selfish to me. I find nothing sexier than giving my wife a good orgasm and as i work away from home a lot that means making sure i am good and fit when i see her, usually abstaining from wacking off and drinking for at least a day. Funnily enough the few times i have digressed i often am super horny when i see her! I guess everyone is different but I do think you have grounds to feel frustrated. You need to talk about it and get on the same page. Maybe he needs to give his general fitness some attention? Good luck.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (18 August 2013):
 If I have strong feelings for a woman I hold off. If not I dont. Ive learned this about myself. Imo hes used to a certain stimulation that isnt u. He prefers something else and to be honest thats not cool. You sound sexy n fun dont let this hurt ur confidence he may have some issues. I definitely would hold off on moving in until u figure this out with him!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (18 August 2013):
 You probably feel upset that he's not as interested and turned on by you anymore, after a year. The thing with sex drive is that when your partner wants less you seem to want more. You can compare sex with food. Masturbation to porn is like mac n cheese dinner while an hour long sex is like a gourmet dinner, restaurant quality. It can be rewarding only for a short time and you get up feeling more tired. If you live with him then you can take advantage of his morning wood and do a quickie. I can assure you that you do turn him on, it's just that with a woman with a high sex drive it gives him the pressure. He's afraid that once he satisfies you you will ask for more, to no end.
Let's see how the guys answer. Every guy is different. Some don't masturbate at all. Some do, but insist that every sexual act is an hour long. He's just one particular guy who wants it when he wants it.
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