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writes: I need a little help on how to tackle my gay ex. I am 33 and he is 21 and we have recently split after six months.He ended it by simply not turning up at arranged times - preferring to go out with his friends. He has had a lot of problems at work, the death of his grand-dad and his dad hit him over Christmas. His problems really did take over our relationship.I have been the brave one and resisted from getting in touch. Until last week when he sent me a long e-mail asking how I was. We arranged to meet for a drink this week but as expected he called it off saying he had been out all day and was tired, asking if we could put it off for another week.When I did not respond to his text within five minutes he texted me again asking if I had received it!It seems my boyfriend is unwilling to talk about what went wrong.We had a great, lovely, honest relationship and he showered me with compliments and text messages of love when we were together on a daily basis.I’m finding it hard to move on after being given such a cold shoulder. What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): Well, I'm in a similar situation. I am 20, my boyfriend is 39 and we've been together for a little more than 2 years. I do love him but I don't think that I can stay with him without becoming more and more resentfull at him simply because he is at a point in his life where he wants to settle down and I'm just turning 21. So it sounds like he cares for you and wants to make you feel better (so he arrages to meet with you, like ge thinks you would want to) but then feels too guilty and distracts himself from that guilt by going out with friends (doing the things that he was afraid were competing with settling down in a serious relationship).
But that could be just what I'm feeling
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2006): Just visit him at his apartment/house. It might be a bit 'rude', but damn it, this has to be solved now!
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