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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:"It hurts so much, I feel like choking and at times vomitting.. When we began to be with each other everyone was against us. His mother phoned me to say that if I do get pregnant with his child he will be a bastard. She warned that he is never going to marry me as it is too much shame to have their family name with mine. She died a year ago. He likes the idea of living with 2 women. He likes polygamy. When I realised I was pregnant last year I asked myself if I am able to go through this because he was often always in contact with another woman....here or there. Sex sex sex He has slept with a few throughout our relationship. Now I have given birth to my child and is 18 months old now. He found a girl on in the Internet, a travel agent from Seychelles named V Bamboche. They have been sending each other sex messages. Make plans to meet. etc etc She calls him affectionate names like Hun and baby and promises him that if they meet she will give him a time of his life....She contacts him every day by phone calls or sms... I know because he told me about her. My life just crumbled right before my very eyes.... But we have just had a baby!!! He wants to see her and buy her ticket to come see him or he goes there whichever is the final decision. I sent her emails after emails begging her to please forget him and leave him alone. Stop asking for money and attention. Times are bad and we are trying to deal with financial issues and to please stop asking him for the moon. I even have to buy the cheapest clothes for my child. To buy my baby a toy, I'd have to think over and over again at whether or not my baby needs it. I am trying to not spend unnecessarily. She replied my emails with harshness asking me to shut up and etc. She asks him to give her money.... And more.. Now she is asking him to secure her life by providing a business for her to handle so she does not have to work for anyone again. I am so hurt. I begged her but she is so cold hearted she ignores me. Now I told him I am leaving. I shall make way for her to be with him. Let my baby and I manage on our own... It hurts too much..
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2009): Why are you quarelling with another woman when he's the one who has invited her in his life?
What is there to make way for her? If HE wanted to make financial arrangements with you he'd have not started another relationship.
Obviously, you've made a mistake having a baby with this man. Obviously you need to get out of this situation. You say he likes polygamy. IS that okay with you? If not, why are you in the situation?
You need to assess your life and get on with it. Without him.
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