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writes: I left my girlfriend after 4 years because we never had a good sexual relationship. She told me right from the beginning she had herpes. I thought our sex problem was because she worried that she would give it to me, that's what she told me. My girlfriend always seemed to carry the weight of the world on her shoulders with work and in life in general, always depressed and never motivated around the house. I didn't care I supported her and cared for her deeply. I know that we both cared for each other deeply. We were also engaged. Do to her negative outlook on life and the sex it finally paid it's toll and I said enough is enough. I've been strong to this point with our breakup and it's almost been a year! I think about her everyday and I do have a partner that I have great sex with but she doesn't seem to fill the void. Now I find out that my ex has met someone else and they have a great sexual relationship. He accepted her for what she has. Why am I letting this kill me? I know I should be thankful that I never caught the disease and I don't have to deal with the downer. I just wanted her to be happy with me. All I think about is this guy will find the button that I was always looking for. Like I said it's killing me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2006): Maybe all she wanted was to be accepted regardless of her condition. I have the virus, and it is very difficult to tell somebody because of the fear that they will judge you. I'm guess that you guys didn't have a good sex like because of a much bigger problem. Unfortunately this virus cannot be cured so whoever she ended up with would have to understand that there was zero she could do. I think you feel guilty for a whole lot more than what you are saying. I guess this guy is in lover with her and willing to take the good with the bad.
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