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writes: Get straight to the point...I used and lied to my girlfriend, what can I do?When I first knew my G/F, we were just friends. I'm ashamed to say from almost the moment I met her I wanted to have sex with her. In fact, that desire dominated the first few months we knew each other, before we were together.I used her. There are no two ways about it, I had sex with her then left. I told her at the time I wanted to be with her, that I wasn't going to leave but I left. However, after I left I realised how much I did actually want to be with her. It was simply a case of not realising what I had until it was gone.So, a few days later I came back. As far as she knew, I wasn't coming back because I hadn't left. In reality I used her, then decided AFTERWARDS that I actually liked her. She thought I liked her all along.That was 7 months ago, and we've been together ever since. She makes me the happiest guy in the world, and I love her dearly. Until today I know she felt the same way.Earlier today, I told her the truth about our early relationship. I felt I couldn't conceal it any longer, that I had to tell her. I told her all about lying to her, about using her. I didn't try to sugar coat, I was brutally honest. Now she's going to "get back to me later" and I'm terrified I've just sunk our whole relationship.What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, charlie432 +, writes (13 February 2006):
you may have well sunk your relationship (harsh but true!), unfortunately you had ulterior motives to begin with that you have come clean about, and she will appreciate the honesty, but it's still a harsh blow. If your "new" relationship is strong enough it'll make it through,if not, it wasn't meant to be from the beginning.There is nothing you can do except sit back and wait for te verdict sweetie. Hope all goes well, Charlie x
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