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writes:its taken ages for me and my boyfriend to get together, and now i have found out he is going to america for 3 months in 4 weeks time. i want to be happy for him but cant be. is this strange?
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reader, cd206 +, writes (24 April 2007):
 It's not that it's strange, it's that you need to readjust your attitude. That's not intended to be a criticism because I'm sure any girl in your position would feel exactly the same, but what I think it comes down to is two choices.... either you're cheerful on the outside about it because it's an amazing opportunity for your boyfriend and his happiness means more to you than your own, or you stay grumpy, insist you don't want him to go and leave him with this impression of you before he goes away. If you leave him with the first impression at least he'll miss you when you're away and you have a chance of getting back together. From the way your post is worded it sounds very much like it has been decided that he's going and nothing you do or say will change it so you might as well face it with a smile.
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